How hypocritical is it to thank someone for a kindness while simultaneously deciding to avoid him or her in the future?
This, I suspect, is an introvert problem.
Every so often I find myself in this situation with people who are nice enough people, but have values and ideas that don’t jive with my own. Not outright bad people, mind you. But people who wear me out with their limited thinking or inconsistent behavior. Or incessant chatter.
Just too much, too much.
Each time I thank one of these people for his or her contribution/generosity/concern in regard to something or other, I feel uncomfortable. This is because I know that in order to stay true to myself and my goals, I have no intention of maintaining a relationship with any of these people in the future.
That they are on the way out of my life.
However there I am, playing nice-y nice, and feeling like the pretense of each situation is an itchy old wool winter coat that I’ve outgrown, but have yet to give to Goodwill. Leading me to conclude that what I’d describe as hypocrisy, like wool, makes me squirm, even when it is of my own doing.