You know how in the movies married couples have these amazing heart-to-heart conversations over a home-cooked meal? We’re not like that.
Our conversations are more like a Looney Tunes cartoon.
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Me, putting a plate of hot food in front of him: Don’t want any salt on your dinner.
Him: Ok.
Me, sitting down to eat: How does it taste?
Him: Tastes good. It doesn’t need salt.
Me: Good. Then you don’t want any salt on it.
Him, giving me an odd look: Yes, I don’t want any salt on my dinner.
Me: Excellent.
Him, still staring at me: Yep, quite tasty as it is.
Me: Uh huh.
Him: ARE YOU EVER GOING TO TELL ME WHY I CAN’T HAVE ANY SALT ON MY DINNER?
Me: Oh, sorry, you don’t know. We’re out of salt so don’t want any salt on your dinner.
Him: You’ve said that.
Me, distracted by the merry-go-round of thoughts in my brain: What?
Him: I don’t want any salt on my dinner.
Me: Well, good. That’s what I told you to do.
Him, giving me a sidelong glance: Yep, you did. Happy to cooperate. Wouldn’t want any salt on my dinner… oh. no. I. wouldn’t.
Me, half listening: Uh huh… what? Ok.
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Could it be that The Merry-Go-Round Broke Down is the Looney Tunes Theme? Why by golly, it is.
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I like our conversations. As you know, the former me would have gotten grumpy. Now, I am very happy that someone is cooking. Thank you.
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Zen-Den, yes, you’ve mellowed over the years. Much less snarl, much more zen. And I’m happy that someone is happy that I’m cooking because cooking makes me happy.
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Why you two are the salt of the earth! 😀
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nancy, made me laugh out loud on that one. I hadn’t thought of that, but of course we are!
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😀😝😀
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LA, thank you.
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😉
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That may very well be the One Thing we’ve never run out of here at the Dept. I buy the huge boxes of Kosher Salt.
We’ve had, sadly, lots of conversations like that around here, mainly because Rick is deaf in one ear and before I got on a B12 regimen, I couldn’t remember/concentrate on a single thing to save my soul. It was like a shuddery preview of Life In Thirty Years.
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nance, I’m surprised that we ran out of salt, but somehow it happened. We have a few salt-free seasonings in the cupboard so it wasn’t like I’d made a bland tasteless dinner.
I hadn’t thought of this conversation in the context of where we’ll be 30 years from now but you make a good case for what’s going to be happening. At least you’re better now, so you can converse [somewhat] normally.
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I don’t think I’ve ever asked someone to pass the salt.
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Jill, well then you’d feel right at home here! Free for dinner? 😉
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Sounds like a typical conversation in our house with two people, one of which refuses to admit that he can’t hear so well so he makes up what he doesn’t quite hear. I, on the other hand, lose interest fast so sometimes by the time he ends the sentence I’m in lalaland.
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Kate, I can see how your dinnertime conversations might be a bit strained… under the circumstances. Hearing loss has yet to affect us, but I imagine it’s coming our way. I drift off into my own mind if I’m obsessing on something, so I occasionally miss whatever the heck Z-D is talking about. ‘Ya know?
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Oh yeah, I know all too well. Then the next day we go through the “I told you” “No, you didn’t” conversation. I love communication!
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Yes, I’ve been caught in that conversational loop, too. I try to remain attentive all the time, but sometimes me mind– she drifts.
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At least your comments to each other are not in any way shape or form “salty,” that is sharp or bitter or risque even. Ha ha!
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marian, no we’re not prone to salty language. We understand each other and are by nature [nurture?] polite people. It’s just that one of us tends to get lost in her thoughts. Oh well.
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That conversation was hilarious!
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L. Marie, thank you. I think. I only realized how funny our convo was after it happened. So therefore I had to blog about it.
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I think Zen Den deserves some sort of award for even understanding your first comment!
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Deb, yes I agree. It was sort of a command/clue about what he was going to be doing/eating. He gets me more than most. Poor guy.
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too funny. guess someone needs to go out and buy some salt so that you no long need to convince your husband that he doesn’t want or need salt before he even tries the food (:
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teacherturnedmommy, you said it! Salt is on the list, and thanks to salt-free seasonings that we had on hand, dinner tasted good without it. Still, my preemptory move of telling Z-D to not want salt was, I believe, brilliant.
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While I confess I’m not superstitious, you’ve adroitly avoided the entire problem of what to do when you’ve spilled salt (throw a pinch over your left shoulder with your right hand, thus averting any additional bad luck). No salt, no spill equals no need for luck reverses. Nice work!
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Deborah, YOU’RE RIGHT! A brilliant observation on your part. I hadn’t thought of that, but now that I have I’m wondering if we even need more salt in this house. Can’t be too careful when it comes to superstition-generated luck. 😊
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I ❤️ the Loony Toons visual! Much more real than the Hallmark version!
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Donna, made me laugh on that one. So true, my dear. We embrace our cartoon-ness here in Chez Bean.
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Ha, this sounds familiar. My high school son laments our conversations now that he’s stuck with us alone while older son is at college. So I tell him, if he doesn’t like the conversation, then tell us something about his day or what happened at school. To this I get a “nothing.” So it’s back to the Seinfeld-like conversations with my husband.
Actually, we used to enjoy discussing politics over dinner, but now we’re all so fed up with it, son included, we don’t have the energy to rehash it.
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Carrie, I bet your high school son cannot wait to go away to college! You know, with parents who are crazy people like you and your husband. Parents who have the audacity to suggest that he bring up a topic of conversation. How dare you?
I know what you mean about politics. There’s so much wrong, and so many confused people who are clinging to the wrongness like deck chairs on the Titanic. What more is there to say?
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Yes, as a senior, he’s itching at the bit to escape!
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I can imagine. But will he be able to get far enough away from you and your crazy idea that there can be family conservations at the dinner table? That is the question. 🤔
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I’m afraid he will. He’s heading to California. Sniffle.
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Oh man-oh-man! That is far, far away. I bet that he’ll come to look back on your family dinners with a kind of nostalgia. Whether he’ll admit to this, who knows?
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He’ll miss them, I’m sure. They just like to act nonchalant.
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Yes, they do. Part of the pretending to be a grown-up process, I do believe. Not realizing yet that grown-ups have no problem admitting to a bit of love and nostalgia.
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Thanks for the RT on Twitter, m’lady. I appreciate it!
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Carrie, your kid’s response was great. I had to share it. 😎
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Married people sit down and eat dinner together? No salt would be an issue in our house because although I never salt anything, hubs is a definite salter. He had stomach issues for the first 20 years of our married life and so our dinners are not of the norm. That doesn’t mean we don’t have conversations like that, just not over dinner 🙂
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Janet, I imagine that circular conversations are pretty normal, no matter where they take place. We try to eat dinner together, but often it’s me who has already eaten an hour ago, cleaning up the kitchen while Z-D eats his dinner sort of by himself. It works for us.
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This made me laugh. I live alone so I have those conversations with myself.
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Akilah, I know what you mean. Z-D has always travelled some for work, so I eat alone often. This in no way slows down my ability to chat… with myself.
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Exactly.
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We wouldn’t have had that conversation in our house, because John avoids salt all the time. We do have your kind of interaction, though. I always seem to be scrambling to unravel who he is talking about. He’ll begin a sentence with someone’s first name, and he will finish that sentence while I’m still trying to find out WHICH Chris he is talking about. We know about five people who are named Chris, Dennis, Bob, or Larry. Your conversation made me feel right at home.
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Anne, YES, yes, yes. Me too. Same thing happens to me with Zen-Den. He starts talking about someone assuming I know which Mike it is, but I don’t know which one and become confused by what he’s saying about Mike because it makes no sense to me. I’m pleased to know that I’m not alone with this multiple same name people problem.
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We know a Mike and a Michael. John, being left-handed, sometimes uses the wrong one, and I am left doubly confused. I’m glad you and I can complain in unison.
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Yes we can do that. Someday I might write a post about this very topic and how Z-D & I have re-named people over the years so that we can keep them straight. We have quite a list.
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I was also wondering about the necessity of having salt in case it got got spilled … necessity is the mother of invention? Sometimes people put salt on their food without even tasting it first!!!!!!! The cooker’s worst thing!!!!!! Best to put no salt on the table, and rather pepper the conversation with the missing salt as you clearly do …
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Susan, I don’t use much salt in cooking because I don’t like it very much. And Zen-Den goes along with what I cook. But I know that sometimes my yummy bland food makes him reach for the salt. I like your idea of peppering the conversation to distract from the lack of salt. Clever word play, my dear!
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Bwahahahaha!!
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Embeecee, thank you.
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Ally, now that the salt is off the table, perhaps you two could try peppering your next dinner conversation with a bit more of that other table seasoning—might even spice things up a bit. 😀
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In My Cluttered Closet, very clever word play. You win the door prize– an empty salt shaker. See how that spices up your day, huh?
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LOL!!! Wait a minute…My Cluttered Closet? Ally, you haven’t been talking to my wife have you? On the other hand, I can’t wait for my empty salt shaker prize to arrive. 😀
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Oops! Closet? Attic? Is there really a difference? My bad. So sorry. 😕
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LOL! No, not really. 😀
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I had to come by and read with a title like that. Good thing he didn’t want salt! You goof balls! 🙂
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Betsy, goof balls? Who you calling goof balls? Certainly not us. We’re so… well, goofy… so maybe we are goof balls after all. Oh well.
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Shew! Dodged a no salt bullet there. LOL.
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This one made me smile. Every couple has their own code, so to speak. When my wife and I have a conversation like that (i.e. slowly going no where), one of us will eventually say, “It’s okay.” It’s okay is short-hand for “let’s move on….” 🙂 – Marty
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Marty, thanks. This conversation was typical in that, like you said, it went nowhere. But I did make it clear that we had no salt, so from my point of view I was effective. And that may be all that matters when it comes to marital communication. I get your “It’s okay” secret code. It rings true here, too.
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Wait… “Don’t want any salt with your dinner”? That would automatically be EXACTLY what I’d want.
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Janis, I get your point. Fortunately Z-D knows my weird communication patterns and understood what I was getting at. Sure, there might have been a better way to tell him we were out of salt, but I was tired.
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My husband generally brings up topics like “did you know that people who like to salt their food are ten times more likely to go to bed in the nude.” Or something equally obtuse. I generally reply with “That’s nice dear.”
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JT Twissel, I like your reply. I’ll keep that in reserve for when the situation warrants it. And you know that it will… eventually.
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That was super cute and the comments here prove it.
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joey, why thank you! We aims to entertain, even when we’re not making a whole lot of sense.
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This could easily go the other way! More often than not, I get a “hmm, could use more sauce” or “too much cilantro” or “I think it’s overcooked.” And all I can think of is how does any of that translate to “Gee Mom, thanks for taking the time out of your work schedule to make us dinner AND do all of our dishes!”
And if I ran out of salt in my house, there would be HE-double hockey sticks to pay! 🙂
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Kate, you make a good point about dinnertime conversations. I’m sorry that you’re not appreciated at home by your salt-loving [salty?] family.
I believe that your cooking is great and it is wonderful that you do the dishes without complaint. What a good mom you are! [This encouraging message brought to you by women everywhere who get what you’re saying.]
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As I writer, to my writerly ear, it sounds like one of you might be considering whether or not to murder the other.
With salt.
I’m not going to name any names here.
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Isa-Lee, you do have a wild imagination! There is nothing nefarious going on here, with or without salt. There’s a bit of dull conversation, but that’s nothing to worry about. Same as it ever was.
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In my mind there is never a dull conversation.
Only subtext. 😉
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Excellent point! I like your mind.
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Sometimes I will run into people who expect me to know something since they told my husband. They must not understand that we have the same types of deep dinnertime conversations that you have. Funny Ally!
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Emily, I hear ‘ya. I’d like to think that Z-D and I have life-altering emotionally-uplifting conversations worthy of a movie script, but I know otherwise. We’re old. We’re tired. We’re just happy to be together when we eat.
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Lots of interesting conversations occur around the dinner table.
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Sheryl, yes they do. This might not have been one of them! 😊
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What a hoot! Besides they tell us salt isn’t good for our health! It would be fun to be a fly on the wall during your dinner times that is for sure.
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Sue, you make a good point. We don’t use much salt to begin with, but using less of it can be a good thing. THAT’S WHY WE’RE OUT OF SALT. I was intentionally making us more healthy! 😉
[Thanks for letting me know my comment turned up unharmed. I didn’t know if the system had eaten it or it had gone to moderation. I try to be a responsible blogger, honestly I do!]
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All of a sudden, the conversations I have with myself over dinner no longer seem as strange…
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evil, I bet they aren’t strange. When I talk with myself I make more sense than this convo did.
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I wanted to say what Nancy said. Except I didn’t think of it first. And she’s so clever. But I did laugh out loud at your post. A perfect example of two loving/loved people who know each other so well, they can talk in riddles and still love each other. 🙂
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Pam, yes were conversational riddleists. [A word?] Somehow we manage to carry on despite our goofy discussions. Go figure. Ain’t love grand?
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Did you also perhaps contemplate phrasing it thusly:
It’s not the salt you’re looking for… move along… move along…
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Tara, your words are so much better than mine. I cannot compete. When tired I just put together sentences in whatever way makes sense to me.
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I have a plethora of movie quotes in my head available for all occasions. 🙂
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I knew there was a reason I liked you!
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I also speak fluent song lyric.
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😊
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I’m starting to get into these conversations with Henry, which makes me feel like a Real Couple. 🙂
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Margaret, well there you go! Ever onward…
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