I was in Costco on Friday afternoon. I ducked into the women’s restroom and while in there saw a cute little girl, about three years old, with her mother.
The little girl was wearing black leggings, a bright blue t-shirt, sturdy white sneakers embellished with cartoon characters, and a sparkly pink tutu. She was a vision of free-spirited sartorial confidence that made me smile.
Oh, to be so sure of yourself!
The duo was standing by the sink in the restroom and the mother was starting to turn on the water at the sink in order for the little girl to wash her hands. However, as we all know, toddlers like to do for themselves that which they believe they are capable of doing by themselves.
And they are often loud and dramatic in the process.
This little girl was no different than her independently-minded peers, thus she said for all to hear the following phrase that I think, as an example of positive self-talk, might be the perfect succinct mantra for anyone who momentarily loses their confidence while negotiating the ups and downs of life:
“I. CAN. ME.”
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Ha! That’s fabulous, Ally. Like they say, from out of the mouth of babes. I. Can. Me. IcanIcanIcan! 😀 Hugs.
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Teagan, I thought it was delightful, too. Made me smile and think of the little engine who could
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I put that right up there with Tina Fey’s daughter’s, “I want to go to there.” 😃
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laura, oh that’s a good one, too. Of course being Tina Fey’s daughter you just know the kid will be smart and verbal.
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Agreed! Apparently it was her entranced reaction to a TV ad for Disney World. Liz Lemon said it in the next 30 Rock. It’s very appropriate sometimes. 😀
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When you explain it in context I totally get why her daughter said that. Great line
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HA! I never heard that story. I think Liz Lemon made it her own by saying it about food, though.
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Don’t you love it, J?
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I can just picture her saying that. You’ve got to love an independent child.
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Michele, I agree. This little girl was independent and dressed in her own style. She was CUTE and memorable
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Count me in – I’m using it! And once I go into the Home, it will turn into “I. Can’t. You.”
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Z-D, always thinking ahead are ‘ya? I suspect that’ll be both of our old age mantras
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I had a bit of a hover-mother, long before the phrase ‘helicopter parent’ entered the lexicon. She wanted so badly to help, with everything, and my childhood echoed with the phrase, “Mother! I want to do it myself!”
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shoreacres, that’s a good line and one that rings true today. I also like “hover-mother” because it suggests exactly what can be going on within the mother/kid relationship. Nice turn of phrase
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I’d say her parents are doing something right.
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Jill, excellent point. This little girl was determined, a bit loud, but her own person– and that’s only happening because someone is letting her be this way.
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I don’t know how to use the badge on my post. I copied and pasted it. 🤷🏻♀️
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When I add a badge to a post I put the image into the post [like I would a photo], then I add the link to the image using the Link To: Custom URL box on the Image Details page of the picture you’re trying to add to your post. Does that help?
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Yes. Much easier on my computer than with my iPhone. At least this morning. 😄 I’ll fix it as soon as I can. Thanks!
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Yesssss!
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laura, great response. 😎
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I love it 🥰. I hope she keeps that attitude forever!
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Me too, Eilene. She needs to keep it going on with that positive attitude.
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Short and to the point. (But I bet her mom gets tired of hearing it sometimes.)
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nance, her mom seemed like a kind soul. When the little girl announced she’d be washing her hands by herself, her mother smiled and said: “Ok, show me.” And little cute stuff did.
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I can affirm that she does, having been through it with 3kids and 3 grandkids😉
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Oh you’d know then. Patience and kindness and a sense of humor lead the way
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Oh that is just so perfect! I love the sounds of her confident fashion style too.
I have a granddaughter who’s the same. I’m rather proud of both her & my daughter 😀
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deb, I adored this little girl before she said a thing. That outfit screamed “I can me” before she opened her mouth. I can understand why you’re proud of your daughter and granddaughter. A bit of spunk is a great thing
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That age is so funny! I’m trying to write in my journal the things our 3 year old grandson says so that I don’t forget. I hope he keeps his stubborn and determined personality!
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Beth, I imagine you’ll have pages of one-liners from that boy. I like to see a bit of can-do spirit in all kids, especially when said so succinctly.
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💗💗💗
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Clever, huh?
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Love it
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I’ve adopted the mantra as my own. Easy to remember for an almost old woman such as myself
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Not even close to old
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Well, I am working on getting old here… 😉
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Well, if THIS doesn’t perfectly sum up being a girl sometimes. Even in my grownup world where men seem just fine with “but what you REALLY mean is…” Now I’m set with I. CAN. ME.
Gotta love that Costco wisdom. 😉
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Laura, I took this sentence to heart. I am sure I can learn to mutter it to myself when confronted with difficulties, might even say it out loud. Glad you like it, too.
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It helps when you hear littles say it with such conviction. Because if SHE can be certain she’s a badass then I’d better get on board. 😉
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So true
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You are a wonderful observer of life! Love looking through your eyes when reading here.
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Jean, thank you. You’re too kind. I wanted to laugh out loud when I heard this little girl, but I didn’t want to harsh her determination so I waited until later when I got a good long chuckle out it.
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She’s going to grow up to be someone amazing!
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Deb, I think so, too. Clever
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I want this on a t-shirt! In glitter or rhinestones. Love it!
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Deb, I like how you’re thinking here. Anything shiny would only serve to enhance this message. Gotta love little girl wisdom
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… and I can definitely picture you in this shirt 🙂
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I wish I had it to wear to Elton John tonight!!! 🤘
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I hope you have a GREAT time!! Oh wait … of course you will!! Rock on, my friend!!
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You’re going to see Elton John tonight? Well life can’t much better than that, regardless of what you wear
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Yes, had the tix for a year now and very excited to see him again, 43 years later!!!!
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I’m sure you haven’t changed a bit in those years, but Sir Elton might have gotten a little older!
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How did you know? 😉😆
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Good hunch.
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Jealous. So sorry we didn’t see him when he was in our area a couple of weeks ago. Have a blast!
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Thank you!
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[Janet, I’m not sure that liking a comment in which one person expresses jealousy is what the like button is all about, but I hit it. I agree, EJ sounds like a blast.]
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I agree. Sometimes I feel the need for more/different buttons.
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Janet, I just left a comment on your blog but the system ate it– or sent it to spam? I’d like a few more buttons and a reliable commenting system from WP. 😑
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I’ll go rescue you:)
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I have a clear image of this delightful little powerhouse. From 2 to 4 years was one of my favourite ages when the boys were young. You just demonstrated why 💕
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Joanne, oh I can only imagine the things your boys came out with at that age. This kid was a hoot, and wonderfully sure of herself. Loved it
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Many mothers seem to dislike this age because kids tend to be headstrong and willful. Personally, that’s when I started to find them really interesting 🙂
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That’s a fascinating observation. I’m sure that being time with a headstrong child is taxing, but kids at that age have no filters so you really know what they’re thinking about. And how which makes them, like you said, interesting.
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Having a granddaughter who is 3, I have a very clear picture of this little gal in her sparkles! What have I learned from that 3 year old independent toddler? Many, many things but right now I would say patience! Love this Ally, thanks for sharing!
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Lynn, I’m sure that this little girl’s mother knows a thing or two about patience, but I gotta think that she’s raising a good kid there. One who will accomplish things!
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Her parents are both so patient with her. She is determined to do things on her own & with the exception of the odd eye roll, she is encouraged to do so!
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That’s wonderful. It’s good to see kids with parents like hers. Encouraging for all of us, I believe
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You have created a striking image of this girl, Ally. I can picture her clearly. And her mantra? How perfect!
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Donna, I liked this girl and obviously what she said resonated with me. Smart and cute, what a combo!
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I love it when I see kids dress as superheroes and fantastic beings. So much more fun than our clothes when we were young… and now too! #icanme makes the perfect hashtag for so many things.
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Janis, I hadn’t thought of the hashtag possibilities with this mantra. You’re right about the clothes we wore as kids, nothing as fun as what this little girl was wearing. We missed that entirely
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I still say that. Sometimes. If it involves cleaning the house it’s you. can. you.
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Kate, you never cease to amaze me. This just goes to show that you’re young at heart, even while cleaning house.
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Not sure about that.
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My younger daughter used to say “Me do yat.” I think that’s one of the things that change as we age; we become more and more willing to accept help, especially for tasks that we don’t want to do. 🙂
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Margaret, if I don’t want to do something and someone else is willing to do it for me, often being paid in the process, I’m all about it. “Me NOT do yat” might be my adult version of your daughter’s phrase.
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That’s so cute. I can picture that scene. Little kids want to be independent.
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Dan, yes little kids do want to be independent and this little girl was so polite, yet determined, about it.
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Love it!!!!!!!
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joyroses13, I loved it too. 😊
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I love every bit of this. Right on to the mom for letting her show how she could do it too.
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Janet, it was a good moment in time. I was fortunate to stumble upon it. I agree about the mom, who was letting little miss do her own thing [supervised of course].
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You could probably pull of that little girl’s look…
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Thanks, John. No doubt it’d get me some attention…
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Ah, I miss the days when I could pull off wearing a tutu and sneakers. Oh, well. I don’t spend much (if any) time around kids (I think I have a force field around me), but one thing I like about three-year-olds is how they seem just on the cusp of adulthood until they turn four and then start acting like, well, four-year-olds.
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Marie, that’s a good observation about three year olds. Like you I’m rarely around kids but three year olds are wise, like they haven’t yet realized how to act like a child.
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BFF wanted to be the one to respond to this post, but I said:
No. I can. Me.
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nancy, made me laugh. I’m glad you know your own mind and can articulate your thoughts with clarity. 😊
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A new expression now trending on all social media! 🙂 – Marty
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Marty, I guess if I turned this mantra into a hashtag and had enormous influence on Twitter it could be a trend. However…
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Oh, to be as wise as a 3-year-old!
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Laurie, isn’t that the truth of it!
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I Can Me might be my new mantra!
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Rivergirl, I’ve adopted it. Seems to resonate with me for some reason.
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Such a great description of the kid. Gotta love the tutu and her cut to the chase phrase
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philmouse, she was styling and seemed smarter than her years. I liked her instantly
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My step daughter used to say “I’m so happy you.” Which was her toddler form of I’m so happy for you.
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Jan, that’s cute. And a sweet thing to say. Toddler talk is a whole different language!
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How absolutely sweet! Thank you for sharing this wonderful moment that you happened to randomly catch. Remember the show, “kids say the darndest things”!
I used to watch that and howl with laughter.
Susan Grace
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Susan, I do remember that show! This little girl would have made a great guest on it.
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It’s good to be an assertive female, no matter what age you are. 🙂 After reading this post, I have to mention that, coincidentally, this morning I heard on “This Day in History” (a regular feature on my radio station), that on October 23, 1850, the first National Women’s Rights Convention began in Worcester, Massachusetts. Perhaps those suffragettes’ childhood personas were also “I. CAN. ME.”
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linda, what a perfect tie-in with this post! I’d love to say I wrote this knowing what day it was, but that’d be a lie. I do like your idea that the suffragettes knew this mantra and because of it got the ball rolling re: women’s vote.
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I enjoy that “This Day in History” feature, so I wanted to track that stat down to ensure I got my facts and figures right. Who knows about those little girls back then, but I know the little girls today are much different than me at that age. Girls rule!!
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Same here. When I was a little girl manners were more important the being effective. Must not bring attention to yourself lest you be considered pushy. 🙄
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I agree with you – it was “please” and “thank you” and even curtsying to elders (I grew up in Canada). I know you were an only child too. I grew up that children were seen and not heard.
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Similar childhood here, except no curtsying. But lots of rules to follow.
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I am glad for that upbringing now, then not such much. Curtsying was a Brit thing and being a young girl living in Canada, we all did it, as archaic as it sounds.
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I. Can. Me. – gonna start using that and wearing a tutu!
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travelingdrunk, YES! Now that’s the spirit… or perhaps in your case spirits. 😉
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Sometimes I wonder where that little girl went, Ally. ;0)
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Me too, Pam. I had spunk like that, lost it for a while, but am happy to say that I’ve found my three year old badass self again thanks to blogging. I. Can. Me. Words to live by.
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I am thinking about retiring early but the thought of what I want to do next has put my pensive 🤔 uncertain self in the foreground. I need to send out a search party for the badass as she’s totally needed right now, Ally. 🌝🤓
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I hope you find her. No doubt she’ll give you good advice about what to do next. That’s a difficult decision to make 🤔
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🙏💕Me, too!
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I .Can.Me should be the new mantra all little girls and boys are taught as soon as they can listen. I .Can.Me could raise a country of “can do” people who change all the stuff that shouldn’t be done that we’re experiencing now. So when we teach I.Can.Me, let’s teach kindness, compassion, and love with those words too.
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Pam, I like your take on this mantra. I was totally charmed by this little girl who clearly had it going on. I’d love to see kids encouraged to have a “can do” attitude based on kindness and compassion and [dare I add?] facts! 🤓
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A kindred Ally spirit no doubt – she even has the stylish plant watering wardrobe to prove it! 😉
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Shelley, you are right. I’ll try to find a sparkly pink tutu that fits me so that the next time I go to water the plants I can wear it. I. Can. Me. taken to a new crazy old lady level!
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Haha! You’re so right!
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Thanks, Val. Don’t you love it?
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Yep!
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That’s right, little girl! You do you!
I’m sure I have a similar outfit in my closet. 😀
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L. Marie, you said it. That little girl was her own person and made my day with her determined spirit. Looking forward to seeing a pic of you in your similar outfit
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I wanna know where she got the skirt!
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pam, that is the question, isn’t it?
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😂
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Great mantra for an adult. As the mother of a toddler in the trenches of his fierce need for independence, I could only shudder as I read this. Ha!
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Betsy, yes if I were faced with toddlerhood 24/7 I might not have found this statement to be so endearing. But as someone who accidentally overheard this conversation, it’s delightful.
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If we needed any more reasons to love Costco… 🙂
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Endless Weekend, I know what you mean. She was too cute and wise beyond her years.
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I can me. Perfect.
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I thought so too, Dawn.
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I love it!
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Yep!
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I think I was getting down to that type of phraseology after almost 2 years of incessant stress at my job… … …
Three year old girls rock.
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Tara, I’ve been to that point in a job, too. I like how this little girl summed it up, not knowing how profound she was.
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I love the energy and joy of a three-year-old. I think somewhere deep inside, we still have this three-year-old part as of our essence. I love the mantra! Thank you for sharing, Ally:)
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Erica/Erika, I hope you’re right about all of us having a three-year-old deep inside who knows what is what & has the gumption to say it. Some days I feel like I could use more of that essence…
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This made me smile too! I can just imagine it.
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Deborah, it was a sweet moment. I had to share it here.
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I’m glad you did. It was a lovely thing to read with my first cuppa of the day. 😀☕
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That’s a lovely compliment. Thank you.
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😃
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I must say I’m not into tattoos, but that might be perfect on the wrist so one could always remember we’re as strong as we ‘think’ we are. 🙂
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Judy, I’m not a tattoo person either but you’re right, this wouldn’t be a bad one to have. Should I ever get one… which I doubt that I will…
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Ally,
Love this! This child KNOWS things and doesn’t even need to drink beforehand! Glad you’re spreading her Truth! Perfect. Mona
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Mona, I agree. This little girl was a hoot but knew her mind. We should all be so smart [& stylish].
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It really is inspiring, kids say the darndest things and from the mouths of babes etc etc. Thank you for sharing it so that I may reincorporate her baby girl strength into my woman worn down life.
Also, I really did read this Wednesday morning, but my phone didn’t know I was me and wouldn’t let me DO things on WP, so I think you should know that my comment then was much more clever and witty, but I no longer recall as it was replaced by tech fury.
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joey, thank you for wanting to comment earlier and trying your best to do so. I sometimes feel that my tombstone will read: she died of complications associated with tech fury. And yes, this little girl is inspiration to us all, no matter what our ages might be. And how irritated we become with the gadgets that let us communicate with each other.
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I appreciate your blog and your IG. Yes, I absolutely had to go through many of those bright vibrant pictures😊. Keep up the great work!
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Thank you! You’re most kind. I try my best… with varying success. 🙄
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You’re welcome!😊 And thank you!
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I’m taking that with me today. So glad you shared!!
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katie, I’m glad you like it, too. I stumbled upon the scene with this little girl and it was, as they used to say, all that & a bag of chips.
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I love this!! 😀👏
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I do too. Cuteness and profundity in one simple phrase.
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That child has a bright future. Hopefully.
Hi, Ally. Have a very good Halloween and a very good weekend. See ya!
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Same to you! 🎃
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Or as my friend’s granddaughter used to say, “Frances can do it myself.”
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Ellen, cute. Gets the point across quickly. Gotta love that!
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