About Blogging: 5 People Whose Unsolicited Advice Shaped Me + A Blogroll Opportunity

/ Ally Bean
A RATTLING GREAT INTRODUCTION

Not long ago someone [a spammer but whatevs] told me that I write a “rattling great” weblog. No one has ever used the word *rattling* to describe what I do here.

I had to look up the word to make certain I knew what it meant in this context. It’s an adjective used for emphasis when denoting something very good of its kind. 

I’m flattered, regardless of the source, because I’ll take encouragement wherever I find it.

Which leads me to writing about the five people, none of whom blog anymore, who guided me to be the blogger I am today. Without their help, which was pretty much unsolicited advice, I never would have stuck around as long as I have.

Many, many thanks to each.

THE 5 PEOPLE & THEIR UNSOLICITED ADVICE

DAISY (2004) – was a graphic designer who sent me, out of the blue, an email in which she told me point blank that I needed to write a personal blog.

I’d commented on her personal blog and she wanted me to know that I should write my own blog because I had what it’d take. That is, I was articulate and informed with a snarky vibe. I was fascinated by this new thing called blogging so I did as she suggested.

COLLEEN (2005) – was a librarian who took it upon herself to help me. Via email she’d politely point out grammatical errors and spelling mistakes I’d made. She also introduced me to the idea of adding links + images to posts.

While today her determination to correct + teach me might be perceived as trollish, at the time I took it as a generous gesture on her part to help me write clearly, learn html, and make my blog pretty.

TARA (2007) – was a marketing professional who thought personal blogging was great, a wonderful creative adjunct to basic marketing channels.

She read something I wrote then encouraged me to approach each blog post as if I was writing a letter to a few close friends.  Pick your friends, she said. Then write only to them allowing your sincerity and joie de vivre to draw readers to your blog.

CHRIS (2011) – was a lawyer who briefly wrote a family blog that had some of the most succinct entertaining posts of any blog ever.

His advice, that I took to heart, was to make the best use of a few words, often obscure words even. He never dummied down down his posts, nor did he meander aimlessly. He had a point and he got to it with panache.

KAREN (2013) – was a teacher who one day just up and told me that my best blog posts were the ones with the wackiest titles.

I’d never considered my titles, but she was prescient about this, realizing that by letting my freak flag fly in the titles I’d draw in curious readers who’d stick around to see what nonsense I was on about that day. And many days thereafter.

QUESTIONS OF THE DAY

Do you know the meaning of *rattling* without looking it up? Is that word part of your daily lexicon?!!  

If you write a personal blog what’s the best blogging advice you’ve received? Was it solicited OR unsolicited?

In general what’s your opinion of unsolicited advice? Are you open to it OR snarly about it?

A BLOGROLL OPPORTUNITY

Last year in January I crowdsourced my Delightful Blogroll. It’s unique in that it’s a compilation of blogs based on the age of the weblog. I’m going to revise the blogroll this next month.

If you’re not currently on it and would like to be included let me know in the comments below by January 31st.  No act of kindness goes unpunished. Case in point, offer closed early due to excessive spam. Thanks for nothing, dipshits. Terms & conditions are were as follows:

  1. your blog must be at least one year old so tell me the year you started it & its complete name;
  2. your blog must be primarily a personal one;
  3. your blog cannot be rude, vulgar, vindictive, or hateful as determined by me; and
  4. you must demonstrate to my satisfaction that you engage with other bloggers via comment sections. 
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277 thoughts on “About Blogging: 5 People Whose Unsolicited Advice Shaped Me + A Blogroll Opportunity”

  1. That’s all great advice! Back in 2009, a acquaintance advised me to start a blog and said I *needed* to post daily for a year. So I did. Looking back, I’m pretty sure it was arbitrary advice, but I was Freshly Pressed twice in that first year so, maybe he was on to something. 😂

    I would be thrilled to be added to your Blogroll. My current blog was started in 2018 and is called Existential Ergonomics. 😍

    P.S. I have such admiration for personal bloggers who stick with the same project for so long. I’m a bit embarrassed by my early-twenty ramblings, so I love when people can *own* all the different people they’ve been. Cheers!

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  2. Rattling is what you hear coming from the back of your car and wonder if the group of squirrels you feed has left their nut hoard inside your tire…Right? I think the advice you just posted is some of the best Ally Bean. It also means I am way behind on being a finessed blogger. Unsolicited advice- depends on who’s giving it then I adjust my snark level. I appreciate seeing my humble blog still on the blogroll and if the need arises to remove please just pretend that I’m still there if I ever ask.

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    • Deb, yes! Your definition of *rattling* is how I knew the word, too. I couldn’t figure what the spammer meant, but I sensed it was positive [like some spam is].

      When I sat down to contemplate how I blog here and why, I realized these 5 people’s advice shaped me. I don’t know that I was conscious of how profound their input was at the time, but now I see it.

      You’re on the blogroll OF COURSE. You can even change the name of your blog again and I’ll make it so. And I’m not being snarky.

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  3. Congratulations on being a ““rattling great” blog, Ally Bean. Your host of commenters must agree with that.

    Wiktionary is my source for finding out the meaning of trendy phrases. Yes, add me to your blogroll. I’ve been blogging since 2013 and I guess would qualify as a personal, non-offensive blogger. Happy Tuesday!

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    • Marian, I read the spam and needed to know what *rattling* meant. When I found out I was charmed, but it was from a spam comment [according to WP] so I deleted it.

      You’re already on the blogroll, but I’ll doublecheck that I have you in the right year. Thanks for joining in again.

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  4. Ally! I love the advice you received…and how you captured it here for us! I love the ‘snarky’ bit (From Daisy) and your mention of Karen’s advice about titles…and your ‘freak flag’. Yes, friend! Wave your flapdoodle-ing fun flag proudly! And no…I would’ve had no clue whatsoever about ‘rattling’ w/o looking it up but having said that…I LIKE it. As for your blogroll, I would be honored. I’ve been blogging since 2010 but only here on WP since July as ‘victoriaponders’ doing the fun personal blogging. 😉😉😉

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    • Victoria, the thing about these 5 people who encouraged me is that they’re all gone from the blogosphere. I’m a little sad about that, but grateful for their advice. Mixed feelings, you know?

      I’ll add you into the blogroll under 2010 using your current blog title. That’ll work just fine. As I revise this list my focus is to include only friendly people who’ve been around the blogosphere for a while. 🤓

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  5. I would agree that you have a “rattling great blog,” Ally, even though it’s not an expression I normally (or ever) use. You had some good advice, but the important things is that you considered it and made good use of it. I, too, have a list of former bloggers who helped me over some rough spots. Sometimes, all we need is a little encouragement. I think I’m on your blogroll.

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    • Dan, I can honestly say that I don’t use *rattling* when I talk, but now that I know its meaning I feel like I should/could in the future.

      You’re right. Advice is only as good as your willingness to entertain it. Considering these 5 accomplished bloggers were inclined to tell me what to do, I paid attention.

      You are on the blogroll already. Thank you.

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    • I second the “rattling great blog”, and I second that I would not normally/never have used it before.

      I once, at work, sent some work I did in an area I knew nothing about to an expert, to get feedback. She responded and said that we have two options: she can re-do the work (correctly 🙃 I already said I knew nothing about the area), or teach me how to do it correctly. I chose option 2. She was wonderful and I learned much from her.

      I love your post, Ally, in several different ways and for several reasons, ranging from the topic and the rattling (!) way you presented it, to your ability to recognize folks in such a marvelous way!

      And thank you for the offer, I remember your previous “blog roll” and you added me then 🥰

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  6. Thank you for sharing! I hope to one day be writing this kind of post. I find your blog posts charming and fun to read. I’m just starting out and trying to figure out what the heck I’m doing so this kind of advice is so useful! Thanks!

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  7. I do not use that particular definition of ‘rattling’, but I will now! I have received unsolicited advice on my blog but most often as encouragement. I blogged off and on for years and started this blog as an invitational challenge to create a blog in which I would commit to write every day for 365 days in a row. Any unsolicited advice I receive comes from bloggers I admire, so I read it with an open and welcoming mind. It is always my choice to act on it or move on. I would also like to say that some of my favorite bloggers no longer seem to blog and I miss them terribly and wish them well. They were people I discovered rather serendipitously. It just goes to show how this platform can impact our lives in such a positive way.

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    • Susan, this use of the word *rattling* was new to me. I like it, but am not sure how I can slip it into everyday conversations. Still I’ll try.

      Thanks for the compliment. Yes, you are on the blogroll already. Thanks.

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    • The use is new to me as well, and I’m going to try to use it at least 3 times this coming week, you know, to “make it stick”!

      And it is a rare and wonderful thing to be able to write like that, a bow is well deserved, and flowers 💐 , too!

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        • I like that, and I’m going to embrace it! It IS their problem, and I think it’s great that you’ve taught (some of) us something new: if we already know everything we read, maybe it’d be less (ok, you know it’s coming…) rattling? 🙃

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  9. They sound like great pieces of advice! I was also inspired to blog like you. Someone simply suggested it because he was always interested in hearing my thoughts about life.

    I’m okay with advice I didn’t ask for, happy for the chance to be better from it even, to a point I’ll gladly thank them for it up front. However, I don’t like the type of it I often tend to get. It’s like you get this, “I’m right, you’re wrong, you need to be schooled” vibe. With these, seems like the advice itself turns out to be mostly bad, even if it were true.

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    • Strangely Irid, I understand about “I’m right, you’re wrong, you need to be schooled” advice. With that sort of thing I just nod my head, smile, and walk away. Uh huh. You gotta consider the source, THEN decide if you can learn from the advice.

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  10. Please add me: Light Motifs II, refreshed in 2021. I never heard rattling before in this context. I’m not a fan of unsolicited advice so I generally ignore it. Blogging satisfies my need to get some poetry and fiction read by others 🙂

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    • Paula, thanks for your blog info. Got it. I was surprised when I learned the meaning of *rattling* and charmed, too. Ignoring that which doesn’t serve you seems sensible to me. Unsolicited advice can certainly be that. 🙄

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  11. I have to say, when I hear the word “rattling” I think if the noise inside a person’s chest when they have pneumonia!! It the obvious rattle of a car or baby’s toy (but those are given.)
    No one ever suggested I start a blog but I saw others and I got interested then thought why not? Let’s see if I have anything to say that anyone would read…
    Never did get advice, solicited, or not. Oh wait – when I started my food one including YouTube videos (to be brought back to life soon), it was suggested I not curse on the videos. Well duh!
    And I love the very smart advice you were given. They obviously work for you!
    Do include me if you find me worthy 😊

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    • Dale, I think of the same definition of *rattling* as you do– or at least I did until I researched the word. Now I’m kind of liking it.

      I’m glad you started your blog. I had a somewhat “why not?” attitude when I began too. I mean, what was there to lose? Interesting advice about not swearing, although I cannot imagine how that could be off-putting considering the world we live in… 🤔

      I find you worthy and I’ll add you to the blogroll but you need to tell me what year you started blogging, please.

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      • I like it, too! I love when expressions used elsewhere make it to our ears & eyes.

        I think it was more for my food videos (when you’re bored with nothing to do 😉 just search with my name or Dales
        Delectables 😁)

        You are so lovely! I stared with EP on August 12, 2013 (though I was on Blogger and Tumblr before – 2009 or so).

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  12. Now I’m pondering this: of the four people who’ve influenced my writing the most, three are dead. I have no idea what that means, but I miss two of them (whose influence was positive) and think occasionally of the other two. Overcoming their opinions gave me the necessary strength to keep on keeping on, without regard for others’ opinions. Another person has become my go-to-guru for photography, although he’s very rarely offered an opinion, and then only after the fact of publication. His page of photography tips could serve as a two-semester course in techniques; over time, I’ve begun to internalize them.

    I’ve not heard ‘rattling’ used in that way, but it occurs to me that it functions for emphasis: like the British ‘bloody’ — as in, “You’ll do what I say, and bloody well like it.”

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    • Linda, I like how you group your writing influences: two positive influences is wonderful, two less than positive influences who helped you find your voice is useful too. I think that having a photography guru would be interesting considering your desire to photograph nature.

      I bet you’re onto something with the derivation of *rattling* because it does a have vibe similar to *bloody* that is British. Bloody hell, that’s a rattling good observation. 😉

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  13. My blog was not intended to be personal…exactly. I retired from Human Resource work and had a million stories to tell. Most of them are hysterical and some unbelievable unless you actually lived it. I did a few then morphed into broader topics. There were a number of bloggers who gave me tips and unsolicited advice along the way. Unsolicited was always better than solicited for me. It’s like asking a friend if these pants make my butt look big. Hard to get a straight answer. I experienced that myself when a friend wrote a book and asked me to do a rough edit. Yikes! I didn’t know how to tell her how awful it was.

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    • Kate, I remember some of your HR stories. The people you dealt with were… unique. I can see how you morphed into a different kind of blog. I like where you’ve landed.

      Your experience giving honest feedback/a rough edit on your friend’s books is why I refuse to ever be a beta reader. I’ve read some really awful self-published books then been asked to write reviews. Did it once, much to my regret. 😵‍💫

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  14. I have not heard “rattling” used in that context before. I agree with Shoreacres that it kind of sounds British. I must admit I started blogging because I wanted a way to get my crafty products out there but now I think I blog more about my personal stuff or tidbits I find interesting than I do about the stuff I make. What kind of sales person does that make me? I’ve never gotten advice about blogging but I do appreciate reading tips like the ones you shared. No one has ever told me to stop blogging either so I guess I’ll keep doing it. Happy Tuesday.

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    • Janet, I wasn’t familiar with *rattling* used this way and it confused me, so I had to look it up. HAD TO I tell you! Now I have a cool new word.

      It seems to me that most longtime bloggers change their goals as they go along. You start envisioning your blog as one thing then it organically morphs into something else. I think of your blog as personal, btw.

      I’m laughing at your keen observation that as long as no one has told you to stop blogging it’s all good. Who needs advice when things are going well.

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      • I think that’s why I mention my crafting, because it is personal to me, but not in a sales pitchy way (I hope) because I consider my readers my friends and I have trouble charging my friends for my creations. You like it? Here, have it, I’ll make another!

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  15. Some unsolicited advice is rattling great ~> pointing us in the right direction as we shake, rattle, and roll through life.

    Other unsolicited advice is proffered by nosy parkers who should mind their own beeswax.

    Congrats on remembering and commemorating 5 of your blogging muses!
    Write on, Ally!

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    • Nancy, yep I’m all about shake, rattle, and roll here. I laughed out loud at your nosy Parker reference. I haven’t heard that term in years and it’s a rattling good one.

      I don’t know how I got to thinking about these 5 people but once I did, I wanted to talk about them. Thanks for stopping by to comment.

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  16. I have seen “rattling” before–reminds me of “cracking,” though perhaps slightly less posh. (I don’t expect to use either unless I’m writing a period piece, though.) I LIKE to think I take writing advice well, especially if offered with a genuine desire to help versus demean. Even if it’s terrible advice, you can always simply smile and say thank you (things I learned dealing with development executives and my in-laws.)

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    • AutumnAshbough, you’re right that *crackling* is like *rattling* although I don’t say it either. Perhaps I should start saying both of these just to see the reactions.

      Good point about why someone offers advice, is to help you or hurt you? It can be a fine line between the two. I’m sure you’ve developed a thick skin doing what you do– and dealing with your in-laws. You live, you learn… when it makes sense to do so.

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  17. “Rattling” is an English adjective meaning that something is really great. I grew up with an English mother and spent quite a bit of time in the UK, so it is familiar to me.

    I started my blog in 2012; initially it was about my experience with a narcissist. It has now morphed into mostly a photography blog with bits and pieces of other things thrown in. It’s not streamlined.

    The blogger who had the biggest influence on me stopped writing three years ago and has moved on to other things, but she has a big impact.

    Feel free to add me to your blog roll if you would like. Cheers.

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    • Lynette, you’ve confirmed the source of *rattling* and I thank you. I studied in England but don’t remember hearing it. Of course my time there was a loooong time ago…

      It’s interesting how the people who leave lasting impressions often turn out to be around briefly. That’s my takeaway from the comments so far. I didn’t know about your posts about narcissism, having found you as a photographer. I’ll add you into the blogroll. Thanks.

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  19. I feel such delight when I see you’ve posted something, because I know smiles are on the way. And you’ve identified all of the reasons why in this post. As a consummate sarcastic (that’s probably not a real phrase, and I try to keep it in check, but you get the point), I love the snark. Besides, it’s a nice form of snark. 😃 The advice is great and I’m going to save this post to refer back to. As to the list, I’m too new, but again, I love the qualifiers you’ve identified!!

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    • Kendra, thanks for your compliment regarding my style of snark. Once upon a time a blogger told me I was charmingly cynical which I suspect is much like being a consummate sarcastic. Nice to know you.

      I thought that I should be clear about the perimeters of the Delightful Blogroll. Last year I was less so– and things got complicated. After you’re around for a year I’ll add you.

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  20. I don’t know that I’ve ever gotten unsolicited advice regarding my blog/blogs. I’ve often asked for, and received, advice on all manner of things including font, background colours, etc. so as to make it a pleasant place to read.

    As far as content, however, no, not in the seventeen years I’ve been at this. I just read an article, by the way, that predicts blogging will make a comeback, due in part to the slow demise of Twitter and the problems confronting facebook. Everything old is new again.

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    • Nance, I’ve asked for blogging advice about how the blog looks & what I write about, then received a mixed bag of opinions. But the 5 people who guided me the most just spoke up out of nowhere. Totally unsolicited but appreciated.

      I didn’t know blogging was gone and in need of a comeback! Welp, I’m here for it, bring on the legions of newbie bloggers. Let’s see how they handle this form of communication.

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  21. I had never heard rattling used in that context and like you, I would have looked it up. Thank you for doing that little chore for me. My blog is simply called Johnny2Toes.com, I know, not very creative. Originally I wanted to share my journey with Alzheimer’s as it began to affect my father. The site was also a place for me to rant and share other thoughts on this or that. I started my site in 2019 and hope to soon start writing. My wife and I are well down recovery road and life is normalizing.

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  23. I cleaned out my study before Christmas and I found a newspaper article that my aunt gave me YEARS ago. It was about a woman with 6 kids who wrote a very popular blog. My aunt said she thought that was something I could do – write a blog. I didn’t end up following my aunt’s advice for MANY years, but I saved the article and I ended up stumbling on Dawn – the woman who was featured in the article, and I now follow her blog Because I Said So. She doesn’t post very often, but she is a riot.

    I reached out to a blogger whose blog I enjoy, The More the Merrier, and asked her for advice early on. I was thrilled when she responded. She suggested that I write shorter paragraphs. It was good advice. My early posts have really long paragraphs.

    I like to think I’m open to unsolicited advice. Not sure I’ve ever received any.

    My definition of rattling is limited to noises made by toddlers (considering my day job) or by terrible coughs.

    Great post – love that you remember and honor those who influenced your writing.

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    • Ernie, I love knowing how you got your start in blogging. A few other commenters have mentioned that someone nudged them into it. Yay to your aunt. Amazing that you found another blogger with 6 kids and that you follow her. Life can take some serendipitous turns.

      I had to learn to write shorter paragraphs, too. I came at writing from a more academic perspective. That was great advice.

      Your definition of *rattling* is the one I went to, but I got curious so I looked up the word. Whether I’ll be using it when I take with people, I dunno. However here in blogland it’s golden.

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  26. Rattling in the context of that sentence sounded like a good thing to me, and very British.
    I use quite a few British words and phrases in my speech, but not that one.

    My blog’s anniversary is coming up this Friday, it will be 13 years old, and it’s a personal photography related blog. I would be thrilled to be added to your blogroll.

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  27. My Dad gave me unsolicited advice all the time. He couched it that way, so I got used to it. It doesn’t bother me to receive it.

    The best blogging advice I got was to not overthink drafts…..just create them, messy with strange thoughts and misspelled words…tweak them later. I got some spammer advice too, which was that I wrote so horribly he could not believe he wasted his time reading my blog post. Then, he put it on most of my blog posts. It was nearly brilliant if he was trying to upset someone and get them to click his links, but I didn’t.

    The blog roll sounds fun. Mine is called Artistic Pension, started in 2017.

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    • Tracey, I’m not bothered by unsolicited advice either. Some of it is great, like these five ideas, some of it is less so. I consider the source, then do as I please.

      That is excellent advice about drafts. I know that I often mess around with a topic, just jotting my thoughts, then slowly weed through my word mess until a post makes sense.

      I like the irony of a spammer telling you that you were a waste of time whilst he wasted time commenting on your posts… that were a waste of time. Brilliant.

      I’ll add you to the blogroll. Thanks for letting me know.

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  28. I love this compilation of unsolicited advice. And I’m so grateful to Daisy for giving you the advice that you should blog. Because boy was she right!! And to Karen, to whatever degree she influenced your titles, because I love your titles.

    I didn’t know “rattling” nor have I ever heard it used. Pretty good one. And I haven’t had any unsolicited advice – readers must think I’m unteachable…which is probably true! 🙂

    I’d love to be on your delightful blog roll. https://wynneleon.wordpress.com (Surprised by Joy). I started it in 2018 but only really started writing regularly in 2020. And I don’t know if it qualifies but if the Heart of the Matter could be on there, I’d love that. https://sharingtheheartofthematter.com It’s newer (2022) and a shared blog but we are great about community and comments!!

    Love your blog and your fun blogging ideas!! 🙂 You make this a great community to be a part of!

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    • Wynne, these 5 people were instrumental in helping me learn how to communicate online. There were others, of course, but these are the ones that stand out in mind primarily because they just told me how to do things better. Heaven knows I needed the help.

      I’ll add your personal blog to the blogroll. Thank you for letting me know your deets. However your newest blog isn’t old enough yet. It’s just a baby blog. 😉

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  29. Back in 2009, a very smart, interesting person I’d known in high school told me that I needed to have a blog. Because she was the one telling me, I took her words seriously, and have (mostly) been blogging (in one way or another) since then. I could probably do with some advice, but I can’t remember anyone ever giving me any. I’m generally not a fan of unsolicited advice, unless it’s from the right person. Then it’s OK. 🙂

    FWIW, your snarky vibe is a definite plus. All my favorite people have one.

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    • Rita, another person who had the good fortune to be told to write a blog. It’s interesting how we each stumbled, or were nudged, into blogging. I imagine you hit the blogosphere with a more put together blog than I did so you didn’t need advice.

      I’m glad my snarky vibe resonates with you. I’d hate to be perceived as a Pollyanna. That wouldn’t do at all. 🤨

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  30. The bloggers I “met” were (almost always) kind and generous. When I first began blogging, I somehow fell in with a group of book bloggers. They taught me some of the same lessons you learned from experienced bloggers. Most importantly, they taught me how to engage with other bloggers, which (IMHO) was the whole point of blogging anyway.

    I am usually a fan of advice – solicited or un. As long as it is kind and sincere. I don’t always follow it, but I love hearing other people’s perspectives on a situation.

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    • Laurie, I agree that personal blogging comes down to how well you can engage with other bloggers. It’s a learned skill in my case. I’m glad you found a good group of bloggers who helped you.

      I like your take on how you approach advice. Kind and sincere is the touchstone. I consider the source as well. If nothing else hearing someone else’s advice for you is a clue into how they tick.

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  31. How fun to read about the bloggers who helped set you on your way!

    I did know the meaning of the word rattling, or, at least, I could have used it in a sentence. I think I’ve read it in books by British authors — Roald Dahl comes to mind.

    Unsolicited advice is so tricky. I think it helps to consider the source, and if it comes from someone I know well and know has my best interests at heart, I try to really consider that advice even if a) I don’t like it and b) didn’t want it and c) feel annoyed by it.

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    • Suzanne, *rattling* took me by surprise. I wasn’t sure what I was being told. Once I realized what it meant I was pleased even if it was a spammer who said it.

      I agree that unsolicited advice is tricky. I was lucky that these 5 people decided to advise me, but I was surprised by how the advice just appeared in my life.

      I like how you evaluate unsolicited advice. You can’t dismiss it out of hand, but you also have to weigh whether it’s worth attending to. Tricky, indeed.

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  32. Hi, Ally – This is such a great topic. So much so that I borrowed it as a focus topic for a discussion that I have coming up with a few local bloggers. It is fascinating to know what has contributed to making each of us who we are. It would be cool if any of your five receive this feedback.

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    • Donna, I’m sure you’ll have an interesting conversation among your local bloggers. I don’t know what got me thinking about these helpful people but once I did I wanted to write about them.

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  33. I cannot say as I’ve ever hear the word “rattling” used in this context. Can’t say I am adding it to my vernacular. As for advice, I have never gotten any. When I mentioned blogging to my daughter and her friends – they laughed at me. All the encouragement I needed.

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  34. Wonderful advice, all. I can’t say I’ve ever received any critique or helpful suggestions on my blog. That could be because it’s perfect every time, or more likely… because no one wants to encourage me to write more.
    🤣

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  35. So neat that those people helped you, probably much more than they realized. I especially like the one about wacky blog titles. (It took me three tries to spell wacky right?!) Your assessment of why that works makes sense.
    I can’t say that I’ve ever received blog advice, solicited or otherwise, so I’ve got nothing for you there.
    Never heard of “rattling.” Given that it was spam, I would’ve assumed it was a poor translation. (Spam tends to be so entertaining in that regard. I’ve read some real doozies.) So good on you for looking it up!
    And since you gave me occasion to check, I can tell you my first post was in September of 2011. Wowsa. I’ve been doing this for a long time! It certainly doesn’t feel like it.

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    • Betsy, I was lucky that these 5 people butted into my life and suggested good ways to write a personal blog. I know they helped me– and might help someone now who reads this. Their advice is timeless.

      The ue of the word *rattling* baffled me. The spam comment was more or less well-written so I was curious about the word. Come to find out it’s a good one, thank you spammer person/bot.

      I’ll add your blog to the blogroll. I started this blog in 2011, it was very good year! Obviously

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  36. I don’t think I’ve ever received blogging advice. To be fair, if I did, I probably wouldn’t pay attention. To me, blogging is fun, and I want to do it my way. I guess if people have problems with it they. An choose not to read. Now, in my writing class or workshop, I want all the advice and critique they can give me. In writing a book, my goal is not the same as it is for my blog

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  37. I have never heard “rattling” used in that way, although I love the British “cracking” as an adjective. Actually, I love most British-isms. Crikey!

    I love that you have remembered all the people who have helped make this blog the delight that it is today! The very best blogging advice I ever received was to make sure that when I link to something in a post, that the link comes up in a SEPARATE WINDOW. Practical knowledge!

    As for receiving unsolicited advice, it very much depends on the spirit in which it is offered, and I think often the spirit in which it is offered is not one of generosity. Not always! But often. But even when it is ungenerous or possibly judgmental, it’s never a bad idea to look at the advice from the other person’s standpoint. This is something I have been working on. We are all works in progress, after all.

    I just checked and I am ON your blogroll, so thanks for that, and I am going to peruse the roll when I have a chance, because your readers are lovely, engaged people.

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    • Nicole, I’ll admit I was charmed when I learned what *rattling* means in this context. I like many British-ism although most of the ones I know are from reading Wooster and Jeeves stories. My slang is old.

      No one has mentioned to me that links should come up in a separate window. That’s something I’d never think about. I did have someone tell me to make my images bigger for people who read blog posts on cell phones. That seems wise.

      You are right, of course, about considering the sincerity of the source when you receive unsolicited advice. I can contemplate criticism if I think it’s said in kindness, but if it’s coming from an ungenerous place I’ll listen but ignore it. Do no harm, but take no shit.

      Yes you’re on the blogroll already and there you shall stay.

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  38. Rattling is what you hear when you’re hiking in the desert, round a cactus, and come face-to-face with a snake.

    Dribbling is the sound you hear immediately afterward, when you’ve just pissed your pants.

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  39. Such an interesting topic (and one, as Donna mentioned, we will be exploring on our upcoming blogger zoom)! I don’t remember if there was a “someone” who set me on the blogging path. I think I just wanted to keep writing once I retired and it seemed like a logical avenue. I am happy to get positive, well-meaning advice/input. I might not take it, but I appreciate the effort. If someone is nice enough to point out a spelling or grammatical error, I am always grateful.

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    • Janis, I imagine that many people started blogging for the reason you mention. It allows you to write and seems like a logical way to share your thoughts. I have to wonder if I’d have ever started a blog if it weren’t for Daisy. I was much less sure of myself back then.

      I’m grateful too when someone tells me about a grammar or spelling or typo mistake. I do my best to edit my posts but I’m fallible.

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  41. Why do I find it so sad when people quit blogging? I get it, people are busy. Still……

    I can’t recall any blogging advice I’ve received, but I have modeled a few concepts from blogs I’ve admired over the years. And if I’m honest, I’m not a fan of unsolicited advice. It often feels like criticism, which I never take well, but at least I’m self aware enough to admit that.

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    • Bijoux, I find it sad too. There are many people who wrote blogs I truly enjoyed, but they’re gone now. I miss the glimpses into their lives and that they ‘got’ me.

      I know what you mean about how unsolicited advice can seem like criticism. I try to keep an open mind about the other person’s point of view, but sometimes I have to wonder if it isn’t all sour grapes. 🤷‍♀️

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  42. Ally, I always thought rattling described something making a noise, primarily because it had seen better days, like an engine or even an entire car trying to make its way. I do use the word rattle in describing certain sounds, so I guess that qualifies as daily lexicon. I don’t recall ever getting any advice on my blogging, either currently or in the past (started on WP a decade ago and been off-and-on since). I am very open to unsolicited advice. That being said, if I disagree with it I reserve the right to respond as such. It’s amazing how some people get offended when you question their unsolicited advice as being sound. After all, I didn’t start down that road…they did! 😀

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    • Bruce, your definition of *rattling* is the one I knew before I researched it. Now that I know better I suppose I might start using it in polite conversation. Just to see how people respond to it.

      I’m with you. You can give me unsolicited advice all you want, but that doesn’t mean I’ll do what you want me to. I’ll either weight what you say OR just dismiss it out of hand. I’m entertained by the idea that by questioning someone’s unsolicited advice that person gets irritated with you. People be weird.

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  43. I think I kinda new what “rattling” meant, although not necessarily heard it often in a context of praise. I like it though 🙂 Definitely a nice compliment.

    I’ve been blogging since 2004 and it’s always been a personal blog. I don’t recall having received personal blogging advice (and some of the advice for “successful blogs” that floats around the Internet is a bunch of *BS* in my opinion. Just do you, be kind and engaging and people will come :)).

    I love that you kept track of you blog roll by year (genius!) because I usually never remember when I started following certain blogs… but it’s awesome to see when people still blog after years. They become part of your community. I am always sad when people stop blogging.

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    • San, I was curious about *rattling* and now that I know what it means I might use in a sentence or two.

      I’ve no idea why these 5 people took pity on me and helped me learn to blog better. I’m grateful and certainly have used their advice as a springboard. I don’t know that I ever thought about having a successful blog [whatever that means] as much as an authentic one.

      I agree that some of the blogging advice out there is BS. I suppose that’s why I continue to do things my own way here. Hence the Delightful Blogroll. I’ll add you to the it.

      I know how you feel when people leave blogging. There’s a hole in my days because of it.

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  44. My blog’s so old that it doesn’t remember how old it is. Rattling I would assume means it makes noise – like a baby’s rattle. However I’ve always found your blog mature enough for adults so I don’t know my dear! You got me.

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    • Jan, it seemed funny to me that a spammer would use a word in a way that I didn’t know. I mean I don’t know all English words, but *rattling* caught my attention. You’re already on the blogroll under 2014!

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  45. I didn’t know that use of rattling. When I was prowling around in the attic, my mother used to asked me what I was up to, rattling around in the attic. Best advice so far on blogging, from John Weiss, “You just have to remember that not every critic is qualified to criticize. A writer has to look at the collective response, as well as the feedback of other writers you know and/or respect.” It was quasi-solicited in that, I didn’t ask for advice, but we were sharing thoughts on writing generally. I am very open to unsolicited advice (even if I may, at first, snarl).

    My first blog post was 4/18/21 on Annie’s Journey (https://www.anniesjourney.com/.

    Cheers, Ally! Keep on keeping on.

    Annie

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    • Annie, John Weiss’s advice is spot on. I respected the 5 people who went out of their ways to guide me so I paid attention to their advice. Like you I’m open to unsolicited advice because I know how to say NO when I’m not interested.

      Thanks for the deets about your blog. I’ll add you to the blogroll when I update it.

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  46. I enjoy learning from other blogs as well as meeting other bloggers. I can’t believe it’s been a year since you posted your blogroll! That was a lot of fun, and it introduced me to a lot of wonderful new friends. I’ve said it before, but it bears repeating: I am so grateful to have you in my world. ❤️

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    • Kari, I agree. I enjoy learning even if the lesson I learn is not the one someone was trying to sell me on. Advice is good when you consider the source.

      Thanks for the compliment. I’m glad that you’ve been able to use the Delightful Blogroll to connect with others. THAT is the point of it, so many cool bloggers out there who need to know each other.

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  48. A tall list of requirements for your blogroll, but happy to say Something to Ponder About meets all the criteria, having commenced 11 years ago. It is only a shame I didn’t discover your blog earlier. And I think it was a whacky title that drew me in to your words. Rattling – I understood the connotation, but don’t use it as an adjective myself.
    It is lovely to read you had such inspiring people to trigger your blogging. I find it hard to remember exactly why I started it. Firstly a travel blog, I had an urge to express the written word in a digital diary style fashion. A penpal had a blog that got me curious about the medium.
    I found the connections, intellectual stimulation and information on WordPress appealed to me and 11 years later, I am still here.

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    • Amanda, thanks for giving me your details. I’ll add you to the Delightful Blogroll. At least when it came to naming it I didn’t do something wacky, just went with what it is. Very literal

      I’m finding that many commenters drifted into blogging to see what it was all about, no preconceived ideas. I didn’t know you started as a travel blog, but that makes sense. I’m glad we connected in blogland, it’s been great to say I know a blogger in Australia.

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  49. Ally, I don’t know if I’m on your blogroll or not, but I’m sure you’ve filled your five slots by now! A lot of people comment on your blog. 😄
    As a matter of fact, I knew what rattling meant because I read a lot of classic fiction, much of it of the British persuasion. “Rattling” is like “cracking.” 😄
    As for advice, I’ve received a lot of unsolicited advice. Some of it I ignore, especially if it is impertinent. But some I take—like the advice to watch Columbo on Amazon Free Vee. 😁

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  50. If you hadn’t given the context to the rattling, I probably wouldn’t have known it for that definition. But yes, I knew what it meant and no, I don’t use it in everyday lexicon.

    Can’t think of any blogging advice I’ve ever received; solicited or unsolicited. But the best compliment I’ve ever received about my “writing” (if you want to call it that) was when I was told, “When I read your letters (or whatever), it sounds like I’m listening to you talk.” And that’s what I aim for whenever I randomly post. To sound like me. Though the odds are long that I’ll ever meet or “talk” to the people I connect with through the blog; if I do – they’ll not be surprised.

    Unsolicited advice – that’s a tricky one. Depends on the topic. It also depends on HOW it is delivered and WHO is giving it. And, honestly, depends on my mood at that very moment. But generally, I try (especially the older I get) to take advice gracefully – whether I follow it or not is at my own discretion.

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    • Gigi, I’ve yet to have a commenter say they use *rattling* in their conversations. I’m not surprised, it seems like an obscure word.

      I like the idea of writing like you talk. You’ve do that well which leads to a more casual vibe. That was a nice compliment.

      You’re right that how the advice is delivered makes a difference. The 5 people who guided me were all kind, but determined that I should know something. I take advice gracefully, too– and then do what I want. Discretely, of course. 😉

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  52. Nope I didn’t know the meaning of the word in question. But ‘rattling’ doesn’t sound particularly flattering, so I would have looked it up.

    The only advice I ever got in the nearly 20 years of blogging is that I need to add more photographs. I didn’t take that advice. Not that it wouldn’t add a nice element to my blog but I have a life beyond the internet.

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    • Jean, once I learned the meaning of *rattling* I was charmed by the word, the spam not so much.

      Interesting advice about adding more photos. I was told that I needed to make my photos larger which I did because I understood the reasoning behind the advice. I take your point about having a life beyond blogging– and if you don’t want to photograph it then don’t.

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  53. I didn’t know the meaning of “rattling” in that context! I wish I could remember more about my early blog friends–and do have a few memories of them although not clear like yours. If I went back to when I started, I’m sure I would see comments from them which would be weird. What I most learned from a few of them was the kind of blogger I didn’t want to be. I read some Mommy blogs but shied away from being a mommy blogger–plus my kids were too old. I didn’t enjoy sites that were too niche like only about photography or only about birds. I love photos but couldn’t get into a post that was mostly all pictures with no commentary. I like to share about my life yet oversharing, especially about mental health or emotional issues, drove me away. So, after several years, I found a blog voice that suited me and hopefully allowed my readers to see who I am.

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    • Margaret, I feel the same way: “If I went back to when I started, I’m sure I would see comments from them which would be weird.” Of course in my case my early ‘starter’ blogs are deleted now, so I can’t go back which is fine.

      Interesting take on what you learned from early bloggers, that is, what not to be. I can think of a few blogs that made me back away quickly because they were too niche-y or written by someone who was unhinged. 😳

      Obviously you found your voice and have gone on to write your personal blog for a good long time now. I’m happy we met along the way and have wandered down this blogging path together.

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  54. Ally, I had not heard of “rattling” before – except “rattling someone’s cage.” It’s difficult to keep up with all the lingo sometimes. It’s like consulting the slang dictionary as words and phrases often change their meaning from how we used them in the past. Sometimes I am VERY glad I checked first, without publishing and finding out later. Well, my neighbor/friend Marge encouraged me to start a blog. I had no interest in writing a blog and had never done any journaling, in school or on my own, except for writing in my diary as a preteen. To appease her as she was a good friend, I started this blog after she e-mailed me repeatedly “here are samples of blogs I follow so you know how to start it Linda.” Then she pressed on, getting me to write on the local newspaper’s blogroll which I did until about six months ago when I asked to be removed and also I blogged at a hyperlocal, online-only news site, which I quit contributing to when they changed their platform and photos had to be either vertical or horizontal only, so it became too time-consuming to contribute as I had to edit my narrative to only use some photos. I got some tips from the Community Engagement Specialist on my blog, which angered me, but I eventually followed them. Believe it or not, she encouraged me to write more than my brief headline and narrative as I wrote just one paragraph and a one-word headline.

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    • Linda, you said: “Sometimes I am VERY glad I checked first, without publishing and finding out later.” Amen, sister!

      I’m delighted to know that your neighbor/friend pushed you into blogging. She was prescient in how you’d be able to run with it. I’m in awe of you getting involved with any newspaper or news site. I can imagine that their editorial guidelines and processes would be annoying.

      I wrote one-word, or a few word, headlines at first, too. I didn’t understand how search engines picked up the titles, but once I did, thanks to Karen, I got goofy with them. Plus it’s fun.

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      • Oh yes … many times I’ve said “whew” when I found some double entendre that I knew nothing about. I only pulled out of the local paper’s online blog roll because I pretty much pinpoint my location, departure times, etc. and I didn’t think it was good to advertise that, though I also know a person reading about nature adventures and squirrel interaction is not likely to be breaking and entering while I am gone. The editor of the local paper is the same person who was my editor at “Patch” – he did a story on me one time as he thought it was funny that I walked more than I drove. So we had an interview about that. When a new owner acquired “Patch” from AOL, they let all the local editors go and Jason went to the “News Herald” – lucky break for him.

        The “Patch” advisor didn’t mention key words for search engine optimization, but told me point blank it was too much gray and my headlines were boring. That burst my balloon, believe me! I like the goofy headlines.

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        • You wise to err on the side of caution about who knows your schedule. I can see why you left the local online paper.

          I’ve read lots about SEO and the importance of using it in titles and content, but I just wing it. Of course I’m not trying to make money off this blog so it’s okay. As for the Patch advisor’s advice… you do you, boo.

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          • Quite honestly, I don’t trust anyone anymore.

            I just wing it too Ally. Were we trying to monetize our blogs it would be different. I will have my 10-year blogiversary next month. The first four and one-half years I had a handful of e-mail subscribers and only two commented. Our “Patch” blogging group only commented within the group, not on the actual blog. I did not know about using categories and tags and didn’t use them until a few years ago. It’s a wonder anyone here at WP found me!

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    • Janet, thank you. I can’t take credit for the actual advice but I’m pleased I could share it here.

      You’re on the blogroll, of course. From the comments so far I know I’ll have many new blogs to add to it come February. Lots of new people around here this year.

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  57. I can’t even begin to touch this as everyone has spoken for me with this superbly rattling discussion. I can’t say I have had any unsolicited advice, even from a spammer, but I do recall reading that your title should be exciting and your first couple of sentences need to draw them in but leave them wanting more. You definitely do that! 100% funniest blogger around!! Bernie

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  58. What a post! 😊 You do have a knack for entertaining, yet poignant writing – your early advisors had good intuition! As for me, I don’t enjoy unsolicited advice, especially at work. There are exceptions, of course… and it depends on who it’s coming from! Sometimes a remark from a complete stranger can be sobering. And yes, I did start blogging because someone suggested it: it was my mum. I had so many (thousand) photos from Argentina, she suggested I start a travel blog. And I did. I think she thought I would also make money with it, which I didn’t! 😅 I’m pretty sure I’m already on your blogroll, but I must add that I love your rules and especially the 4th one! Yes! Happy blogging, Ally!

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    • Snow, thanks for the kind thoughts about this post. I agree that these 5 people knew how to write blogs, they were early adopters and willing to share their advice with me, a stumbling blogging newbie.

      You’re right about where you receive unsolicited advice is as significant as the actual advice. If the person saying it has a hidden agenda, beware.

      I’m glad your mom suggested you write a blog. She was onto something that has worked out well for you, for all of us who read your blog.

      You’re currently on the Delightful Blogroll and there you shall remain. And YES my 4th rule is one I added this year because if you aren’t engaging in comments then you don’t seem friendly to me. And friendly is what I want this blogroll to be.

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  59. Excellent blogging advice you’ve shared. I especially like the one about writing a personal letter to your readers. Did you keep a list of those bloggers so that you’d be able to check out if they are still blogging? I have a list like that and have gone back to see if the links still work. Many are gone. It’s nice that you’ve been able to stick around and keep on personal blogging. Your blog is one of my favorites to visit.

    Do you know the meaning of *rattling* without looking it up? Is that word part of your daily lexicon?!! I’m thankful you looked up the meaning and shared it with us. It hasn’t been a word I’ve used daily, so maybe I’ll start. 🤔 I agree, your blog is a great example of rattling.

    If you write a personal blog what’s the best blogging advice you’ve received? Was it solicited OR unsolicited? I’d say that your blog and your comments and questions on other blogs, including my own, always provide the best blogging advice, both solicited and unsolicited.

    In general, what’s your opinion of unsolicited advice? Are you open to it OR snarly about it? I’m always open to it – if it sparks emotion on any level, it’s something to ponder and learn from.

    PS – Since I joined you last year on your blogroll, I’ll let others join in on the fun this year 😍🤩🤗

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    • Shelley, I don’t know what became of these five people after they stopped blogging. Truthfully I don’t remember the actual names of their blogs, just their names and their wisdom. I wish them well wherever they are now.

      *Rattling* it turns out is a wonderful word, but new to me. I’m sure I’ll occasionally use it here on the blog, might even try it in personal chit-chat conversations too.

      I agree with you that comments left on this blog or ones that I read elsewhere often provide unsolicited advice that I take to heart– or at least consider. I love comment sections for that very reason, so much to think about… “ponder and learn from”… as you said.

      You’ll still be on the Delightful Blogroll. I’m offering this up to newer readers who weren’t around last year. I’ll add them in because the more the merrier, as they say. 😜

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  60. “You shake my nerves and you rattle my brain.
    Without your blog, drive the world insane.”😂
    I would say rattling in your spammers context means to shake things up which you always do, Ally Bean. 😘

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  61. I started blogging because I found I really liked commenting on other blogs and the friendliness of the blogging community. I would have definitely had to look up the meaning of ‘rattling.’ I haven’t gotten a lot of advice, and I’m not sure what I should infer from that. 🙂 Unsolicited advice is an interesting subject matter because sometimes it is very welcome, while other times it hits a real hot button. Most of us don’t reveal a lot of real personal information and when a reader assumes they know the background and make a know it all comment, that hurts, but that’s part of putting yourself out there by writing a blog.

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    • Judy, I initially found it difficult to comment but like you say “the friendliness of the blogging community” made it okay to try. You raise a great point about unsolicited advice, it can be welcome or irritating af. So agree that when you write a personal blog you make yourself vulnerable and people do assume they know you, but sometimes their assumptions baffle me. 🫤

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  62. ’ve been blogging since 2007 and, like you, was influenced in the early days by a host of others who no longer blog. I miss every one of them! Today, my blog is called A Slice of Life and I would love to be included in your blog roll.

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    • Linda, thanks for letting me know the details of your blog. I’ll add you when I revise the Delightful Blogroll. I, too, miss many former bloggers who were great friends, then left blogland. I understand why they did what they did, but there is a hole where they were.

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  63. I started my blog (Elisabeth Frost) back in 2021; I didn’t necessarily know how long I’d stick with it, but I’m still chugging along and love that you visit my wee corner of the internet and leave such insightful comments 🙂

    I’d love to be on your blog roll.

    Definitely personal. I make every effort not to stray into vulgar/rude territory and responding to comments is my jam.

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    • Elisabeth, thanks for joining in here. I’ll add you to the blogroll because you’re meant to be on it. You blog in a way that suggests smarts and warmth and kindness– with just the right amount of snark, of course.

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  64. The word Rattling makes me think of someone who is sick with a rattling chest. No?

    I honestly can’t say that I got any advice, solicited or unsolicited. Maybe I need some?
    From what I remember, I’m already on your blogroll. I think. It’s been a year. 🙂

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    • Suz, you are on the blogroll. Thank you. I thought the same thing about the definition of *rattling* until I looked it up. Now I feel like I need to say it every so often, even if people give me odd looks!

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  65. Your Delightful Blogroll has quite a few blogs on it that I follow! It was also a good reminder that I should update my Blogroll.
    I started blogging 13 years ago. The name of my blog has changed several times before it became ‘Amusives’. It would be an honour to be added to your list.

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  67. When it comes to unsolicited advice, my first reaction is to be snarky. I’m not very good at being told what to do, LOL. I’d love to be included in your blogroll. I’m lindalouslife.com. Technically, I started my blog in 2017, but didn’t start focusing on it until 2019.

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  68. I did not know what “rattling” meant, at least in the context of a compliment.

    The only unsolicited blogging advice I ever got was from people who wanted me to buy their books. The advice you got was great, and (obviously) you know who to listen to. I particularly like the blogger’s insight about your titles. Yes, wacky titles are a great way to get attention, so much better than clickbait. You always follow through, Ally!

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    • Marie, how perceptive of you to realize that your unsolicited advice came from people who wanted something from you. My 5 advisors didn’t want a thing other than to tell me what to do better!

      The idea of wacky titles was one I’d never considered. I used to be more serious so I felt my title should be the same way… but I’ve learned otherwise.

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      • It’s wonderful that you got good unsolicited advice. Just shows there are still generous people out there. I would consider unsolicited advice if it was constructive, but I also need to consider what I’m trying to get out of having a blog. Right now, I’m just enjoying the warm, comfiness of having a few people stop by. I want to be interesting and entertaining but, to be honest, I’m not putting a lot of effort into that. I’m spread too thin (again) to focus much on the blog. At least, for now.

        As far wacky titles are concerned, we need more wacky in our world, positive and fun wacky, that is.

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        • I understand your situation regarding blogging. You do have to figure out WHY you want to write a personal blog, then behave accordingly. I write mine to keep my brain clicking and my heart open. Nothing more deep than that. I realize everyone goes into blogging with different goals and expectations. I’m sure you’ll figure out your why, then know what to do.

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  69. Do you know the meaning of *rattling* without looking it up? Is that word part of your daily lexicon?!!
    Yes, I do. Sometimes, like after an earthquake or an aftershock of one, I’ll say to Roger, “Well that was definitely rattling.”

    If you write a personal blog what’s the best blogging advice you’ve received? Was it solicited OR unsolicited?
    I have never received blogging advice. Now I’m wondering why. What advice would you give me?

    In general what’s your opinion of unsolicited advice? Are you open to it OR snarly about it?
    About advice it depends on what inspired the person to give it to me. Some people might give advice based on what they know and have experienced; others might give advice based on what they think they know.

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    • Robin, you make me smile in a rattling great way. You’ve never received unsolicited blogging advice? Must mean you’re doing everything right. I was a goof-up in my earlier years, I needed help.

      I love your assessment of why people give advice. You’re right, some people know what they’re talking about but other people are frauds even if they don’t realize their frauds. Fortunately I’m comfortable saying NO to any advice I think is off-base. Bet you are, too!

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  70. Actually, I have heard of the term “rattling” because I read a lot of British fiction. But isn’t it funny how advice, even when it is unsolicited, can provide the incentive we need to do something? Because your advisors were right, you are a very good blogger and you have a knack for the personal blog! I’d be happy to be included in your blog role. I’m pretty sure I started blogging in 2014 (I’d have to look it up), and mine it’s my personal blog (except when Finn writes a guest post, and then it’s his personal blog!) The site is http://www.muddlingthroughmymiddleage.com. Thanks!!

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    • Ann, *rattling* used like it was is new to me, but now I feel like I’ll need to use the word occasionally. Thanks for the compliment about this blog. I enjoy writing a personal blog and as long as I do I’ll keep at it.

      I’ll add you on the revised blogroll when I put it together in February. Thanks for giving me your [& Finn’s] details.

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  71. I can’t say I’ve ever heard the word *rattling* being used that way.

    The best unsolicited advice I ever got was from Jeffrey S. Cramer, a curator of collections at the Thoreau Institute at Walden Woods. After I used a quote incorrectly attributed to Henry David Thoreau in one of my earliest posts, he left a comment kindly pointing out the error and told me where I could go to verify the source of Thoreau quotes. Since then I’ve been very careful to accurately source any of the quotes I use in my blog. And since then he has edited a book, “The Quotable Thoreau.”

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    • Barbara, this is a wonderful story that confirms my conviction that well-meaning people will help you, often out of the blue. I appreciate anyone who doublechecks their sources wanting to be accurate, and to think you do this because someone who became a published author guided you to do so. Thanks for sharing your experience here.

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  72. I love the term “rattling good read” but then I am British 😉

    I’ve never had anyone make contact to offer me advice, but I have read much in the blogs I read. I think the best advice I’ve read is actually what Tara said to you. I don’t know if I achieve it, but I do try to write as I speak.

    As for unsolicited advice, I imagine my reaction would depend on many things:
    – how I felt that day
    – who it came from
    – the manner in which it was delivered
    – whether it was on a subject in which I believed myself to be expert 😉

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    • Deb, I knew you’d like *rattling* just because you are you. I was a clueless blogger in the beginning. It was all so new and there were no sources online that offered advice, so I appreciated these 5 accomplished bloggers giving me the skinny.

      Your analysis of the variables that surround unsolicited advice are perfect. It is a thinking process you have to go through in order to decide how to deal with the advice. Well said.

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  73. I like Tara’s advice about writing as if you are writing to a few close friends – that’s a good approach and maybe let to you addressing us as your gentle readers etc? I knew what rattling meant, but I’m not sure how – I think it’s an old term? Most of the advice I’ve received re my blog has had to do with the length of my posts – too long – which I tend to ignore. What can I say, I’m wordy. I usually don’t mind unless I’m in an annoyed mood. One of the readers who told me really early days 2017 that I should limit my posts to 300-500 words, still reads it, but that would just be getting started for me.

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    • Joni, I agree that Tara’s advice is sound. At the time she offered it I was babbling all over the place with no cohesive theme to any of my posts. Once I began to envision each blog post as a letter home, I got more focused and confident. I don’t know when I started calling y’all ‘gentle readers’ or ‘cool kids’ or ‘my little moonbeams’, but it did come naturally from my feeling that I’m talking among friends.

      Your posts are too long? Huh, I never would say that about what you write. It’s not like you’re padding them with words for English class so you’ll hit the minimum word count to get a passing grade. I’m glad you ignored the unsolicited advice.

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  74. I have never heard “rattling” used in that way. I like it. You received such great advice. I am pretty much open to advice, solicited or unsolicited, as long as it’s given with good intentions (not exactly sure how I’d *know* the intentions). I’ve gotten good and snarky advice from friends and always appreciate a bit of snark when it’s done with love. 🙂

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    • Robin, yes, yes, you said it: “a bit of snark when it’s done with love.” That’s exactly how I think about it, too. I am grateful for the unsolicited advice I received back then, only sorry that these 5 bloggers are a long time gone from blogland.

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  75. I’ve started blogging last year in the month of july, so technically it’s not eligible for the blogroll but anyways i enjoyed reading your blog and unfortunately i haven’t recieved any blogging advice till now, but would love to hear one from you!!

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  76. Ally, I’m glad you took Daisy’s advice! I haven’t received any blogging advice. I’ve read blogging tips from bloggers and picked up a few useful how-tos from WordPress Support site.

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    • Natalie, I’m glad I took Daisy’s advice too, but I was surprised when she offered it. I’ve read lots of how-to blog information along the way. Some of it was useful, some of it was nonsense. Like anything, you have to consider the source before you do what they say.

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  77. I started a personal blog in October 2017 as a way to process and cope with grief: I lost my husband to cancer in August 2016.

    Best unsolicited (well, maybe solicited, I must have asked a fried to read and tell me what she thought– but I remember not expecting this particular tidbit) was: keep it to 800 words or less.

    For quite a while after I challenged myself to come in at *exactly* 800 words, including my standard sign-offs — a fun and useful exercise.

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    • Ridiculouswoman, thanks for the details about your blog. I’ll add it into the blogroll when I update it in February. I’m sorry to read about your husband’s passing but can understand how writing a blog could help you cope.

      Yep, to shorter blog posts. I rarely write any as long as 800 words, though. Mine are more like 500-600 words and I fear that might be too long. I like how you challenged your with the word count. That would be fun.

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      • Thanks, Ally. I am frequently ridiculous, as my blog’s title implies. But you can call me Anne. One of my earliest blog posts is about how I fell in love with a big man who had a deep voice, largely because of the way he called me “Annie” – didn’t have the heart, or the desire, to tell him the “e” in “Anne” was silent! So you and anyone who reads this are also welcome to call me Annie!

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  78. Thank you for sharing an interesting post, Ally. Intriguing how and when the teacher’s arrived and the impact they made in your blogging life, and life in general. You remind me about the importance of titles and few words.

    I still consider myself a blogger since I read posts almost daily and I write daily. I consider many bloggers my friends. I have not published a post here for awhile, yet I intend to return here. Many private, personal reasons for this at the moment.

    “Behindthesceneryphoto.com” Year 2018. Happy New Year, Ally.😀

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    • Erica/Erika, the catalyst for this post came to me when I realized how grateful I am that anyone took or takes the time to read my blog. Then I got thinking about who helped me along the way, and how they’re all gone now. So this is a belated thank you.

      I look forward to you returning to blogland when you’re ready. That’s the wonderful thing about personal blogger, you can drop in and out as need be, adapting blogging to your life. It ain’t a job, after all.

      Got your deets. Will add you.

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  80. My husband talked me into starting a blog, and at first I planned it to be restaurant reviews to local places. That lasted a few posts, then I started writing about everything else. At first my only readers were people that I knew in real life, and it was a fun way to keep in touch on a daily basis. Then slowly I got to know more people through their blogs, etc. I am not nearly as dedicated as you, I don’t follow that many blogs, and not as many people follow me. And I can barely keep up. Kudos to you for the effort that goes into your blogging – writing, reading, and commenting. You certainly make a lot of connection, and bring a smile to many people’s faces.

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    • J, I didn’t know you started your blog to be a restaurant reviewer. That’s a cool idea, but am glad you branched out into being a personal blogger who I met along the way.

      I didn’t follow so many blogs until March 2020 when we went into coronavirus lockdown. As a way of keeping busy/calm while staying at home 24/7 I jumped into personal blogging big time. I made a point to show up here regularly and to comment hither & yon regularly. The result is I ended up following many interesting people who I try to keep up with now. It does take effort and more time than I ever thought I’d devote to blogging, but for the moment it’s all good. Thanks for noticing– and stopping by to comment.

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  82. I first starting blogging years ago. It was a shared blog, that has since closed down. We all pretty much moved over to FB and keep in touch in a private group.

    I’d love to be added to your blog roll. Thanks!

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  83. “approach each blog post as if I was writing a letter to a few close friends” is my favourite tip in there! I just launched my blog recently, so I havent received any unsolicited advice 🤔 just a little advice I sought from friends (& mostly SEO related)

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    • ReadRenard, Tara’s advice rang true then, still does today. I don’t know why these kind people found it in their hearts to help me but they did and I am grateful. I’m sure you’ll do great as you go along with your new blog. Much of blogging is about live and learn.

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  84. Love your blog and I would love to be included in your blogroll. It’s hard to believe, but I started giving tios and tricks on how to surcive suburbia with sanity somewhat intact in 2016. Parenthood has caused the past 7+ years to fly by (momyears are like dog years in reverse) and my blog has morphed into something else. I can’t say that I’ve been consistent in my posts, but I’m writing again, and that’s a start.

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  86. Answers:

    Yes I did, but not as used above. For example, “I have rocks rattling around inside my skull.” The archaic use of it “indicating something good,” was a new one for me. I’ll not likely retain it, but I will use it at least once . . . as in, “rattling rocks in one’s skull is not rattling at all” . . . as you can see, it could foster confusion.

    I don’t recall receiving any advice aside from advice I gave myself (write for yourself because, I told me, if you don’t like what you write, no one else will either). The same advice I gave myself about fiction writing. And, of course, the advice was unsolicited because it’s not my nature to ask for advice, not even from me.

    Others have given me unsolicited advice, but generally, I ignore it for a variety of reasons. On the one hand, some of the advice involves physical impossibilities and/or destinations I know don’t exist. On the other hand, few people really know me, what I want or don’t want, so there’s no one — eminently or not — qualified to give me advice, even if it’s not advice of the kind mentioned above. On the third hand, I’m a bit of a contrarian at heart, shedding advice like ducks shed water. Finally, on the fourth hand, on rare occasions when someone gives me what I consider worthwhile advice, I’d probably already come across it as I do a lot of research about everything I do. I tend to forestall advice-giving by writing things like “thanks, but I’m OK” right on my posts when I fear someone might be moved to misread my words as me asking for advice.

    Blogroll:

    I don’t do blog rolls, so I don’t expect to be on anyone’s blogrolls. Besides, I’m not sure who looks at those since it takes a bit of effort to follow those links.

    Generally, I check comments on blogs I already follow. Most interesting people (blogs) I follow come from me reading comments on other blogs or my blog. If someone leaves a comment on my blog, I tend to check out the person as it will affect my answer to them.

    I answer all comments, but not all with the intent to encourage engagement.

    I also have the annoying habit (to some) of being quite verbose. If you admired Chris for his use of few words . . . well, you’ll not be enthralled by my writing.

    Well, I better end this before it gets too long … oh, wait …

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    • Disperser, you wordy? I couldn’t tell!

      I get that you’re not one for unsolicited advice. I mean if you can’t take it from yourself then it follows that no one else will get through to you either. Not that there’s anything wrong with passing when it comes to unsolicited advice, it’s just that these 5 people helped me in ways that I only recently realized. So I wanted to say thank you.

      I had my doubts about putting a blogroll out there after all these years in blogland. I crowdsourced it so only bloggers who wanted to be on it would be. I’m amazed but the darned thing gets hits every day. Some readers enjoy blogrolls, it would seem.

      Thanks for stopping by to read and comment. I enjoy seeing what people have to say about what I write.

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  87. Firstly, I’m open to any and all advice that I can get. Unsolicited or otherwise because I’m just figuring this thing out. I enjoy doing it and while I need to be more consistent because I’ve had some things come up in my life that needed my attention, my blog is 1 years old as of this past December.

    As for the blog roll thing… I don’t know exactly what that entails but I’d love to join in. Especially if it helps me grow. I believe I fit the categories you listed. My blog is a personal blog. It’s not rude, vulgar, hateful or otherwise. I engage with my followers because to me, it’s the best part of writing a blog in the first place.

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