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I CAN SEE WHAT HAPPENED FROM TWO PERSPECTIVES
On the one hand I believe people can change and that’s a defining characteristic of humanity. As we gain experience and knowledge we are able to change, preferably for the better, as we go along.
But on the other hand I like to keep my distance from people who have demonstrated they’re irony-impaired and don’t have the sense God gave a goose, regardless of whether they may have changed or not.
Judge me as you will.
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I WAS ON INSTAGRAM WHEN IT MADE A SUGGESTION ABOUT WHO I SHOULD FOLLOW
When I saw the name I recognized it immediately and shouted “HELL NO.”
Shouted those words out loud.
Then I started laughing because I hadn’t thought about this woman, Zelda, in years.
I met Zelda, an author wannabe, through a mutual acquaintance who knew that Zelda was creating her author’s platform which was to include a personal blog.
Our mutual acquaintance thought that I might be able to answer some of Zelda’s questions about writing a personal blog. And I did.
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
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YOU SEE, ZELDA WAS GOING TO WRITE HER MEMOIR
It was to be about what she’d learned about how to get along with people while living on four continents.
She had stories to tell about her experiences while overcoming language barriers and adapting to the idiosyncrasies of the cultures around her.
There was a charming “Kum Ba Yah“ hippy vibe to her thinking and Zelda was a wordy girl, of that I have no doubt. She could talk up a storm about the book she had yet to write.
The thesis statement for her proposed memoir was something to the effect of: by taking time to listen and understand people you can connect on a deeper level regardless of your background. It just takes effort.
Being proactive, she’d started a blog for her author’s platform.
Oh yes she had.
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BUT THERE WAS A PROBLEM
She couldn’t figure out how to attract readers. She knew that as an author-to-be she’d need to be able prove to a literary agent that she had a loyal online following.
This was something that had not happened despite the time she was pouring into her blog; she was clueless as to why this was so.
In an attempt to get to gain perspective on her problem I asked her which blogs she followed and commented on. She seemed baffled, genuinely confused.
She replied, you mean I’m supposed to pay attention to other blogs?
I said, yes, that’s the deal. That’s how you connect in the blogosphere. You pay attention to other bloggers, leave thoughtful comments, then those people become your readers.
To which she said, why would I do that? I don’t care about those people. All I want is for them to pay attention to me so I can sell my book.
And therein was the crux of the problem for this author wannabe/newbie blogger who wanted to tell YOU what to do, but had no intention of making any effort to do so herself.
Go figure, huh?
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NOW I GRANT YOU ZELDA COULD HAVE CHANGED
It’s been years since I met her, but looking at her IG account I saw no evidence that she’d written her memoir or that she had a public personal blog.
Instead I saw an Instagram feed with selfies– and not much else.
Knowing what you do now, would you want to follow her on social media? Hmmm?
Am I being hypocritical by not allowing her the opportunity to show me that she has changed OR am I protecting my personal boundaries/sanity by not following her?