What To Do, What To Do? A Simple Way To Make A Decision + Kate’s Five Things

/ Ally Bean

I’ve heard it said that when you need to make a decision and you find yourself stumped about what to do, your answer will become clear by asking yourself: what would make my 7 y.o. self proud and my 80 y.o. self grateful?

Today I’m asking myself this proud/grateful question because on the surface of it I have nothing to write about. Not that I don’t do things, but what I do to stay busy isn’t necessarily interesting to anyone else, me thinks.

I mean, I got a new prescription for my glasses & I planted some zinnia seeds & I discovered that a snazzy new-to-the-area convenience store, Sheetz, carries my favorite difficult-to-find candy bar, Zagnut. Thus I am seeing clearly & hoping for some late summer blooms & grooving on yumminess.

I’m happy, my bliss is buzzing as they say, but I can’t help but pondering: shouldn’t there be more to this blog post than a few random glimpses into my daily life? 

And you know what?

Both my 7 y.o. self and my 80 y.o. self say YES!

Thus I’m answering Kate’s Five Things questions. They are a weekly feature on House Call WITH KATE ARENDS who you may know from her blog Wit & Delight.

Her questions + my answers are as follows:

• When did you feel most at home this week? 

Answer: in the kitchen while I made a new delicious recipe, Raspberry-Ricotta Cake. I enjoy baking and I enjoy bouncing around in the kitchen creating a mess while following, but also tweaking, recipes. [I added 1/4th teaspoon lemon extract to bring out the berry’s citrus flavor.]

• Where are you moving forward?

Answer: in the last few months I’ve come to appreciate how organized I’ve become since March 2020, the official beginning of the Covid-19 Pandemic. Not that we were living in chaos before but I’ve come to  realize that I didn’t know what we had + where it was, and this was causing me to feel a low level of anxiety. Now I feel more in control, proactive, rather than at loose ends, reactive.

• Where are you stuck?

Answer: I’m not a person who enjoys learning about technology. Recently I moved from an iPhone 8 to an iPhone 16. I’ve become overwhelmed and bothered by its newness: too many different ways of doing what I used to know how to do + too many new computer-y fiddly bits, none of which I asked for, that I now must contend with.

• What did you consume that was regenerative?

Answer: I read The Cat Who Saved Books by Japanese author Sōsuke Natsukawa. It’s a short novel, a fable, about the positive power of books and the types of people who disabuse this power. The protagonist, a lonely teenage boy, follows a cat into different realms to [you guessed it] save books. It’s a charming tale, insightful, gently pointing out flaws in human nature. 

• What question are you asking?

Answer: Does this matter? And if so, where is the story?

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QUESTIONS OF THE DAY

What have you done recently that would make your 7 y.o. self proud and your 80 y.o. self grateful?

Currently, in general, how organized do you feel you are? Is being organized a goal for you?

When thinking about books you have consumed [read], which one or ones has/have helped you feel regenerated, revitalized, ready to take on life anew?

What is your favorite candy bar? What is your favorite cake?

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239 thoughts on “What To Do, What To Do? A Simple Way To Make A Decision + Kate’s Five Things”

  1. I get that low level of anxiety when you’re looking for stuff and it’s buried underneath other stuff. Meh. I too have started tackling this part, usually when I’m looking for something and it’s not where I put it last. Did it grow legs? Did someone take it and didn’t put it back? It’s all such a long journey to get to a point where you feel less anxious because you know if you open this drawer, the scissors will be there. 😀

    I hear you on the technology. It’s one of the reasons I didn’t switch over to Apple computers and suick with Windows as much as they irritate me. I figure why replace my comfortable irritation with a new one?

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  2. Claudette, YES, you get it. Did it grow legs? That’s exactly the way I feel when I cannot find what should be where it is, but isn’t there. It’s a low level kind of irritation that sucks the joy out of any project.

    I understand about sticking with the computer system you already know. That’s why I’m still with Apple…

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  3. I’ve been joining protests in my area against the current administration and I have another one coming up on June 14th. No KIngs demonstrations will take place all over the country and I’m encouraging you to find one near you. Your 7 year old self and your 80 year old self will thank you!

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    • Ellen D., I’ve read about the No Kings demonstrations planned for June 14th. The last I read, and it’s been a week or so, the nearest one wasn’t near us. Will see if that has changed.

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  4. Last night I split a salted caramel pretzel shake with my husband and daughter. 7 and 80 year old me would be thrilled. Being organized is really my only goal and I feel organized right now. I’m currently reading Playground by Richard powers. It’s so good it makes me excited to be someone who loves words. I like heath bar. My favorite cake is a mille crepe cake from Lady m bakery here. It’s like 20 layers of crepe with delicious cream between each layer. Light yet decadent

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  5. I’ve been actively downsizing those bits that you are going to need “one of these days” along with things you are never going to need some day. Amazingly, my husband (confirmed pack rat) has caught some of my anxiety and has done some downsizing too, just not enough. We are plowing along. If I can throw out or donate one thing each day, I’m happy.

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  6. I can answer the first 2 queries together: Made a second HUGE life decision and am carrying out the logistics of it in my typical solo, organized and slightly impatient way. As I go along and see the future I anticipate a high level of gratitude for the opportunity.

    Books with a nature/mildly feminist/life mimics our earth’s cycle sort of focus always regenerate moi. Also many that describe a milder, pragmatic road to aging versus the typical doom and gloom/nothing to look forward too crap.

    Can’t remember the last time I had a candy bar- but anything with caramel would be high up on my list. Also cake doesn’t exist in my world. Sweet items are just too addictive for me and they make my joints hurt and upset my gut in bad ways. I treat myself with pitted dates or an apple spread with peanut butter.

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    • Deb, you are doing great if you’ve made a big decision and are able to do it in your own way. That’s definitely a good way to keep both of your selves content.

      I recently read The Serviceberry which describes nature and how we could emulate its message to create a better world. I like that kind of regenerative theme too.

      I know I’ve heard a few people say how sugar makes their joints/stomach hurt. If that is your case, then avoiding it is what you need to do. I don’t eat a lot of sugar, I don’t have a sweet tooth, but when I do eat something sweet I know exactly what I like.

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  7. I’m getting my teeth repaired and both my 7 yo self and 80 yo self would thank me for it. I’m quite organized but not fixated on it. No more candies for me because of answer no 1. Haven’t had time to read any books lately.

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  8. Good answer on where you are moving forward, Ally. I relate to that one. Whether because of COVID or because we moved, we “got our house in order” by sorting through 95% of our personal belongings (and parting with 50% of them). Like you, we know where everything is now. We still have too much stuff but it feels like a lot less (weird sentence there). As for blogs, the last kind of post I want to read is one where the writer is bound by the calendar and feels forced to come up with a topic. You hit on that here, yet your musings still made for an interesting post. Bravo!

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    • Dave, like you we still have too much stuff, but finding ways to move it on is difficult. I can easily give things away to Goodwill or St. Vincent de Paul, but antiques [as in the real deal not just vintage] are proving to be a challenge. I don’t want to get involved with FB Marketplace and cannot find a reputable auctioneer so the stuff stays here.

      Thanks for the compliment. I want to be reliable about showing up, but also relatable.

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      • I have been in the same boat – what to do with antiques. But then I remembered that my 40-something nephew is married to a woman who loves antiques! She has bought 6-8 full services of china. So I texted them photos of what I was downsizing, along with its family history, and they came to pick up a bunch of it. So maybe look around your local friend group and whether any of them owns antiques. Worth a try.

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        • Nina, thanks for the idea. I know my niece and nephew aren’t interested in antiques, but maybe friends have younger contacts that are into antiques.

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  9. Oh, this is a hard one. If I make it to 80, probably my future self would be grateful that I made swimming my main form of exercise. My 7-year-old self would be horrified that I voluntarily jump into a pool to swim laps at 6:45 in the morning (my 7-year-old self HATED jumping into the pool for swim team every summer morning at 8 AM). Probably my seven-year-old self would be thrilled that I have a cat.

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    • Autumn, I know that swimming is a good form of exercise, but I’m with your 7 y.o. self about not enjoying it. Chlorine is icky. I’m impressed you swim your laps so early in the morning because that takes dedication. As for having a cat, that’d be two 7 y.o. thumbs up no doubt. Your 80 y.o. self might even groove on the cat, too.

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      • I don’t mind the chlorine, but I was a total night owl as a child. Getting up early all summer SUCKED. Now, though, I do get up early and I’d rather swim before I need sunblock. Seven-year-old me would be horrified.

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        • Yes, getting up early during summer break would be a struggle. As a kid I loved to stay up late to watch TV, so I liked to sleep in back then. Makes sense about no sunblock. That stuff can be an icky mess.

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  10. I like all your fiddly bits, as you say. And, I’m always on the lookout for new book titles. Thus, The Cat Who Saved Books intrigues me.
    Blessings to Ally Bean today–and, her assorted friends here!

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  11. My 7 year old self would look at my 80 year old self (and I am almost that – I’ll be 79 in a few months) and be overjoyed to know that life got better, even tho it took a damn long time, and that she survived…

    I am super organized and a minimalist – always have been – it can be a negative, as I am discovering – having to replace things I got rid of ahead of an anticipated move that I canceled. I have empty closets! Being super organized has made difficult situations much easier to manage.

    Odd to think that being a bookworm all my life I can’t think of any book that affected me in any way other than it made me happy to have read it – that after finishing it, I thought – “That was well written” or “What a good story” or “How delightful”.

    Can’t say I have a favorite candy bar – I always have dark chocolate raspberry squares in the house, and currently I’m on a jelly bean kick – haven’t had a candy bar, of any kind in years.

    Also not a cake person. I’m told my chocolate cake is superb – I only ever have a small obligatory slice myself. I like carrot cake – but only if I make it myself – store bought carrot cake tastes weird to me. I prefer pies, certain Italian pastries, my lemon bars – which are sensational due to my own “adjustments” to the recipe. The raspberry-ricotta cake sounds interesting but unfortunately the recipe is not accessible unless you pay for a subscription. Since I’m on a baking kick – just starting to make bread again – I’ll look for a recipe somewhere else.

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    • Grace, excellent point about how your 7 y.o. self would be proud of you for surviving to get to a better place. Mine would be the same.

      I’m sure you’re right that there can be a downside to being too much of a minimalist. I’m far from it but I can see what you mean. I like organization but am gentle with myself when I slip.

      I haven’t had a dark chocolate raspberry square in ages and now I’m hungry for one. Jelly beans aren’t my scene though. Hurt my teeth to eat them.

      I’m with you about carrot cake. When I make one at home it tastes great but ones from elsewhere taste off to me. Don’t know why.

      I don’t have a subscription and the recipe shows up fine for me. That’s weird that you’re being blocked. I’ve no solution for that. Sorry.

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  12. I’ve always been organized. I can’t enjoy life when I have chaos surrounding me, either mentally or physically. I’m a Reese’s Cup and Mounds kind of girl. I have a lot of favorite cakes . . . dark chocolate, white wedding, coconut, carrot . . . the list is never ending.

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    • Bijoux, I prefer a bit of organization but haven’t always had the luxury of finding the time to make it happen. The realization that I’ve made significant progress seems worthy of note. Obviously, I guess.

      I like Almond Joys but not so much into peanut butter and chocolate together. Weird, I know. You are a cake person! Must make for a good life considering how many kinds are out there.

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  14. I am here for this, Ally! (I’ve never, ever heard of your favourite candy bar. Please tell me what it’s like!)

    What have you done recently that would make your 7 y.o. self proud and your 80 y.o. self grateful? I’ve helped my parents with some deep decluttering projects.

    Currently, in general, how organized do you feel you are? Is being organized a goal for you? I’m feeling fairly good about my organization levels. I love being organized so I would say it is less a goal and more a compulsion. (Which, with two youngish kids in the house is near-impossible to fully manage. It’s organized chaos most of the time.)

    When thinking about books you have consumed [read], which one or ones has/have helped you feel regenerated, revitalized, ready to take on life anew? I really enjoyed Go as a River. That’s been my favourite book this year and made me excited about reading.

    What is your favorite candy bar? What is your favorite cake? Favourite candy bar? Hmmm. I like high-quality peanut butter cups. Favourite cake would be Unbaked Cherry Cheesecake.

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    • Elisabeth, a Zagnut is made of peanut butter and toasted coconut but isn’t covered in chocolate making it unusual. The link I shared explains its history, but in essence it’s best known for being an anomaly among candy bars.

      Helping your parents declutter is one of those rites of passage. I understand how both of your selves would be pleased.

      I love being organized too, but haven’t always been able to make it happen. I’m smiling about your realization that organization for you is a compulsion. To thine own self…

      I need to read Go as a River. I’ve heard about it from many different people which is a good sign.

      Now that you mention it I haven’t had any cheesecake in ages. I can’t make a decent one, baked or unbaked, so I buy it but can’t explain how it fell off my radar.

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  15. I am stumped by the 7 yo/80 yo question. Maybe the things I do for my folks? Helping them out would make my 7 yo self proud and my 80 self would most likely relate to their situation, so I’d probably feel grateful. I was reflecting on other stuff I do, like the chapter I wrote for my book club and the group last night gave me the highest marks/praise I’ve gotten yet. My 7 yo self would probably feel proud that I found a way to look at my life stories with a sense of humor and let’s assume that I’ll get a book deal followed by a movie deal, and then my 80 yo self would be grateful, because I could retire in style. Hee hee.

    Is a Reeces peanut butter cup a candy bar? If so, that’s my fav.

    I’m organized, but I’ll never feel fully organized and in control of my space/this house until all 8 kids have moved out and claimed their stuff. I do pride myself in almost always knowing exactly where something is. Exhibit A: I walked home from my folks house Sunday night with a book that my dad was sending to Tank. (they are two birds of a feather, history lovers) I was making cookies before the hot weather hit. Coach went to bed and I stayed up later. Tank wondered where the book was and we could not find it anywhere. I would’ve just walked in and set it on the counter. What gives? Turns out, Coach stored it in Tank’s locker. Why? His ‘orderly way’ that is not his normal ‘way’ was unexpected and had me wondering if I was losing my mind.

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    • ernie, I’m smiling while following your line of reasoning about your book – publisher – movie deal – cushy retirement. I hope it happens for you so I can say I knew her back when before she was famous.

      Yes, I’d say a Reese’s Cup is a candy bar. You find them beside actual bars, so why not? They blend.

      Your tale of the book in its proper place is a hoot. I get it. Why would someone suddenly put something away when that someone is not normally tidy? You just never know with some people, eh?

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  16. Wow iPhone 8 to at 16 is a crazy jump. So much has changed but you’ll have fun learning all about the new features.Oh and sometimes sharing about food is just what we all need, I’ll be on the hunt for that candy bar!!!

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  17. These are all very good questions.
    – 7 & 80 year old selves happy/grateful? I’d have to say playing in the dirt in my garden, planting the stuff the groundhog did not already nab…
    – When did I feel most at home in the past week? My beau was up for 9 days and it was so nice to have someone to cook for besides me) and share simple things like vacuuming! Which was great 🙂 I am happiest when I am in my kitchen cooking for the people I love.
    – Organised. Yeah. No. Hell no. And not because I don’t want to be. I know that all I have to do is START and once that is in motion, I shall go to town.
    – Books/renewal – that is a mighty good question. I’ve read so many books that touched me but don’t even remember the title. However, very recently I read “The Secret Garden” and enjoyed it so very much. Years ago, I read Sidney Poitier’s autobiography “The Measure of a Man” which stayed with me for a long time.
    – Favourite chocolate bar (I refuse to call them candy bars) is Oh Henry! and my favourite cake is… um… lemme see… my chocolate-banana, 4-layer cake with white chocolate icing.
    Bonus question: What question am I asking? When will I retire? Do I give it 2 years or less? 😉

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    • Dale, gardening is a perfect answer and would keep my 7 y.o. and 80 y.o. selves happy as well.

      I’m glad you had a fun time with your sweet patootie. I like to cook and bake when there is someone other than myself to appreciate the effort. Also who doesn’t like to see a man vacuuming!

      You’re right about getting organized. If we hadn’t been stuck at home during the pandemic I might never have started the process. There’s more to do but I feel like I’ve gotten some momentum.

      I tried to read The Secret Garden when I was younger, but somehow it didn’t click. It’s not like there is one good book that hits with everyone which is why I rather liked the question, too.

      So, my dear, when are you going to retire? Only you can answer that question, but does give me an idea for a blog post topic. 🤔

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      • Glad you agree 🙂 Playing in the dirt is fun and meditative.

        Oh yes. And when he said he liked vacuuming? Bonus!! Always so much nicer to have guests to feed.

        I should have during the Pandammit but somehow, with the kids still at home, it was quasi-impossible. And then right after they left, I had the house gutted and remodeled so the basement is STILL in the same sorry state – plus I had two mini-floods so everything got spread out to dry… sad state of affairs, tell you what.

        It’s funny, I think I was able to read it because with all the political brouhaha going on, I needed something sweet and innocent. I think back in elementary school when I so loved reading Beverly Cleary and Judy Blume and Walter Farley – coz my friend was a horse maniac and made me read them all 😉 They all meant something at one point or another.

        Well. I am seriously thinking of giving it another 2 years. I’ll be 63. Or, if it is possible, and I am pretty sure it is, I will work only 4-6 months of the year, during the busy time… all depends on whether or not it remains fun to work here! All I know is there is no way in hell I am starting over elsewhere!

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        • I understand why you haven’t been able to get as organized as you might like to be. Variables get in the way. Of course you’ll get to it in your own good and perfect time.

          I like your reasoning for reading The Secret Garden. I’ve no doubt its innocence would be a good counter balance for the political nonsense we deal with.

          You sound like you have a reasonable idea about how and when and why you’ll retire when you do. I get it about NOT starting over somewhere else. The devil you know is better than the one you don’t know.

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          • There is that. And thank you for understanding 🙂 I figure there will be time enough eventually!

            Yes, it’s the same reason we are rereading The Hobbit in a Tolkien group (we reach each book of The Lord of the Rings in three years). The hostess just thought maybe something gentle…

            Exackery! I don’t say I wouldn’t take something silly like work a cash register in a store that I enjoy – just to socialize… I don’t see myself as a Walmart Greeter though 😉 😀

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  20. Well since we are in the process of cleaning out my MIL’s apartment after her passing last week I can definitely see where being organized and downsizing is helpful. We are fortunate that it is just her apartment that we need to clean out and not a whole house. Will I do that in my house? Maybe but one at a time please. Favorite cake is chocolate cake with thick chocolate frosting. I love Milky Way and Velvet Crumble candy bars. Happy Tuesday!

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  21. I’ve never heard of a Zagnut bar! How interesting. My favorite candy bar is a Milky Way. Creamy caramel & nougat wrapped in chocolate with no nuts or annoying bits to disrupt my enjoyment! I’d say my 7 year old and 80 year old selves would be delighted that I keep on drawing and making stuff. I DO want to hear about your zinnia seeds and daily minutae!

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    • Michelle, a Zagnut is made with peanut butter and coconut but isn’t covered in chocolate. I’m laughing: no nuts or annoying bits to disrupt my enjoyment! I feel that way about chocolate sometimes.

      Yes, your two selves should be happy about your drawing and stuff. You are great at it. I know I enjoy seeing what you’ve finished. I’ll post a photo of the zinnias should they grow. It’s an experimental place this year.

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  22. I went from an iphone SE that still has the home button to a 16. I feel your pain! I am struggling with it. My husband did the same and I keep get butt dials from him. That cake sounds delicious. I like M & M’s and Butterfingers.

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  23. Zagnut! I haven’t heard that name in a long time! I can’t eat chocolate anymore because it gives me migraines, so I’m all for any sweet that isn’t chocolate. I looked up what’s in a Zagnut and it looks delicious—I’ll definitely be on the lookout for it at candy stores now.

    Thank you for sharing Kate’s blog. It’s right up my alley, so I added it to my Feedly. I really enjoyed reading your answers. Those are great questions to ask ourselves regularly—and it looks like she does them weekly!

    I’m pretty organized, so that part’s not really something I need to work on. But my motivation? Shot to heck since last year. At least I can recognize that it’s not functioning properly—and I’m giving myself grace for that.

    My favorite candy bar used to be Twix. Now I don’t really have one. My favorite cake was a homemade chocolate cake with chocolate frosting… but, alas. I think you can see why my motivation is down the drain. 🤣

    Time to find a new favorite candy and cake. That’ll help.

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    • Kari, I don’t like chocolate all that much so a Zagnut is for me. When I can find them. FWIW they’re usually on the bottom shelf in a a store, about ankle height.

      Kate answers her questions weekly, so it’s interesting to see how her answers change.

      I want to be more organized than I am, but I do realize I’ve made strides so I’m grooving on that at the moment.

      Good luck on your search for your new favorite candy bar and cake. Such a daunting challenge but one I’m sure you’ll tackle with enthusiasm. After all, you’ll have to do many taste testings. 😊

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  24. Well, the only candy bar I eat is Equal Exchange Total Eclipse extremely dark bitter chocolate, and only a couple of little squares at a time. I do not like cake, especially frosted ones, but I do like to make them for others. If I eat cake, I scrape off the frosting and give it to someone with a sweet tooth. Frosting makes me cringe, unless it is whipped dark chocolate ganache which is quite delicious.
    For the most part, I’m quite organized, but I live with a husband who continually flings things in drawers and finds new places throughout the house to put batteries and lightbulbs.

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  25. A hundred years ago when my brother and I went trick-or-treating, we had a firm rule: I would trade him all my Zagnuts for all his 3 Musketeers. If I ran out of Zagnuts before he ran out of 3 Musketeers, then he got my O’Henrys.

    I can’t remember the last time I had a candy bar, but Reese’s peanut butter cups will always be my standby. If I were going more bougie, it would be a Dove chocolate bar.

    I’ve made raspberry ricotta cake many times and always include lemon zest. I’m not much of a cake person; I’d take lemon bars over cake any old time.

    As far as organization goes, that was my Survival Skill as a career teacher. I am still extremely organized at home, but a Certain Other Person Here is the exact opposite. Sigh.

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    • nance, what a lovely Zagnut story! I feel your brother got the better end of the deal, but that’s just me. I know Reese’s Cups are popular but they’ve never charmed.

      I adore anything lemon so in truth I’d take lemon bars over this cake, BUT the question asked about my last week and I made a cake not bars. I am truthful to a fault.

      I know that when I worked I was very organized at my jobs. At home, having inherited so many things, I’ve been less organized until these last few years. An upside to the pandemic I guess.

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  26. I don’t remember being 7 so let me change it to 10. Here’s why: when I was 10, I was overweight and out of shape. I failed P.E. and got sent to a fitness boot camp for a couple of weeks in the summer. I failed that, too. I couldn’t even do a chin-up, just hung from the bar with everyone getting a good look at my undershirt and fat belly. Fast-forward to now and my 10 y.o. self would be proud that when I practice yoga, there’s no pot belly in the way anymore. My 80 y.o. self will be grateful that I pay so much attention to my balance and flexibility.

    On a scale of 1 to 10, I’m probably about a 6 these days. When I was working, I was up around 8 or 9 because being organized helped me keep my sanity in a job that had many moving parts. I would prefer to be more organized (that is, have less of a cluttered house), but I don’t live alone. The thing is, clutter overwhelms me. I can’t concentrate until I get rid of clutter. Unfortunately, by the time I clear the clutter, I’m tired.

    I’ll have to come back to your question about books.

    My favorite candy bar is Butterfingers. Sadly, I can’t eat those anymore. The sugar makes me feel sick. I’m not a cake person. More crème brûlée 🙂

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  27. Gosh, my seven year old self would have been proud if I’d been able to prove that her real parents were the king and queen of some magical kingdom and that they were planning to come from her any day now! My favorite candy bar is Mounds. Love the dark chocolate and coconut combo. But they’ve gotten so expensive!

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  28. There’s an odd thing about making decisions based on what a seven year old and an eighty year old might do. At both ends of the age spectrum, decisions often are made on the basic of emotion rather than reason; emotion’s fine at times, but the biggies need a fair dose of reason.

    I had a discussion with someone about new cameras recently, and it occured to me that my old model Canon has something in common with my 2011 Toyota, my iPhone 11 running version 17.2, my iPad Air-2 (with a home button!), and my lovely PC running Win10Pro. They’re all comfortable. I like buttons more than touch screens, for one thing. When I’m driving, I can change radio stations, put in a CD, and adjust the AC without taking my eyes off the road; I know exactly where the controls are, and they’re simple. I like simple.

    I like being organized, too. I don’t always dust as often as I should, but I can’t abide clutter. Simplification has helped with organization, too. Fewer possessions and fewer commitments make it easier to organize ‘stuff’ and time.

    I don’t eat cake or candy bars any more, but when I did (or if I were to indulge) it would be carrot or Italian cream cake. I much prefer chocolates to candy bars, particularly Freia (Danish) and anything from the Chatham Candy Manor. Their sea salt caramels are the best!

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    • Linda, could be true. I was a serious rational child, older than my years, and who I’ll be in my later years remains to be seen but I suspect she’ll be someone who doesn’t put up with B.S. From those two vantage points I can only hope I make good decisions now.

      I’m with you about liking simplicity. I don’t enjoy dealing with new technology but sometimes it is inescapable. I know that when I get a new car, I’m going to hate all the screens that complicate things. Z-D’s 2024 SUV has them and they are annoying.

      I strive to be organized but also realize that I can thrive in a messy noisy space if I need to. An unexpected consequence of living in college dorms.

      I’m not familiar with this candy company so thanks for the link. You had me at the word ‘caramel’!

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  29. My 7 y.o. self was a little toerag and wouldn’t give a hoot about the views of 66 year old self. These days I have to struggle to find any rebellion in me. I would like a little bit of that back. Meanwhile I think you owe it to the entire planet to tell me all about the Zagnut bar! Completely new to me and boy do I want one! 😊

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  30. I am quite organized (by product of my profession), but some things slip at times. I’ve never heard of your favourite chocolate bar. Mine is a Lindt 90% bar, or if going for sweeter, it would be Turtles or Glossette Raisins. Ah, technology – important to keep with the times. Sometimes, I wrote myself a cheat sheet, so I remember how to do a task that I find difficult.
    As to the 7 and 80 saying; I’ve never heard that. Interesting thought, and I will ponder it if I am struggling with a decision. Hm.. should I go clean the bathroom😉.

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    • Bernie, no doubt you can and are organized when needs be. I’ve never met a nurse who wasn’t. I’ve seen the Lindt bar you mention but never tasted one. I’m not a big fan of chocolate, hence my love of Zagnuts.

      I do not naturally want to keep up with technology, but I try in my small ways to grasp what is going on. I have a few cheat sheets I use to do things on my desktop computer, but on my phone I just give up and move one. There may be swearing involved.

      The adage is a sweet one that seems to help me clarify many decisions. I want to be proud of myself and grateful for what I’ve done so I do what gets me there.

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      • I’m with Dorothy at Vintage Kitchen. I love dark chocolate, and the frosting she mentioned is one i have made! I forgot to answer about cakes…any cake is good but a chocolate cake is great. I’m not a huge fan of icing, so I often give it to my other half.
        Off to check out Katie’s blog…like I need to follow one more???🤔

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        • I prefer dark chocolate when I eat it. Milk chocolate doesn’t do it for me. I’m happy to know that I’m not the only one who isn’t keen on frosting.

          Kate has gone from being a personal blogger to a brand with a few different places online. When I first knew of her she was just somebody… like us.

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  31. Probably it’s that I still enjoy silly movies. 😊

    I tend to be very organised although that’s not a set point for me; it’s a habit I was forced into through my career choices. I still have some post-retirement organising to complete, however.

    I don’t think I’ve ever felt that way about a book. I can see the narrator or writer feeling regenerated or renewed, but I’ve never really had much of a sense that because someone else – someone I don’t know – has accomplished something that I can to that thing as well. I tend to see some of the components of their success as possibilities, though.

    I’m not a big fan of chocolate bars. I tend to like those that are just chocolate, no nuts or other things.

    Good questions, Ally. Cheers.

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    • Lynette, what a wonderful answer to the question! I’m the same way. I like to laugh with [not at] people.

      You’re right about how being organized can be a habit that helps you, but isn’t the goal in and of itself. Just a tool in your toolbox of life.

      I majored in English Lit so I was taught to look at literature as inspirational, in some way. I suppose that’s why Kate’s question resonated with me. The fable has given me a way to understand people that I’d never thought about before.

      I do take your point about how seeing what someone else has done doesn’t always translate into action for you. Sometimes it can even put you off trying.

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      • I admire Eng Lit majors. I took English courses in uni out of interest but often didn’t connect with the literature in the ways that I saw others doing. I loved the British, Canadian and American classics but had to really make an effort to understand their nuances and underpinnings. That has become easier as I’ve matured of course but as an 18-year old I was a bit at sea. Cheers.

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        • Part of the reason I majored in English Lit was that it was like taking a Psych class but a whole lot less dry. I wanted to understand people and reading books gave me insights and perspective. Plus stories are fun.

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  32. I cast a spell to get Elon Musk out of D.C. and it worked! My 7 yo self is Proud and my 80 yo self will be grateful I’m sure! 😀

    Now if I can do the same with TACO Trump . . . we’ll be all set. 😀

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  33. Such a nice, chatty post again! You make me want to answer your questions, because when else do we get to tell the internet about ourselves? (Unless you count social media, but I’m not on social media.)

    Being organised isn’t a goal for me, but I love lists. They organise my THOUGHTS. So while the material-ness around me can be chaotic (with 2 little + 1 big boy to pick up after), I’m fine as long as I get a chance to create and update my to-do lists. I have lists for EVERYTHING and I crave to engage in them!!

    As for consuming books, I’m glad you clarified you meant reading 😉😛 I stopped to think about your question and can’t think of an answer, because I mostly read mystery novels! Cozy mysteries, but still. They don’t really make me feel revitalised. Maybe I should find a book like that (but I’m very picky).

    My favourite cakes are New York cheesecake and a good strawberry or raspberry cake with lots of whipped cream! I’m not good at baking, nor do I enjoy it, but I had to click on your recipe because it just sounded interesting! Sometimes I save recipes, even though I know I’d have to live to 200 to ever get around to making them. Work just drains all my extra energy for things like this 😆

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    • Snow, thank you. I do lean into a conversational tone here. It’s fun.

      I get what you’re saying about lists. I adore them for the reason you mention, they keep me on track even when everything around me is messy.

      I don’t know that I’ve read many books that revitalized me but there have been a few that gave me a new way to think about things. So that I felt more empowered to take on life.

      I like cheesecake too. I don’t eat it often, but when I do I wonder why I don’t have it more often. I save lots of recipes, too. Some I try while others I eventually toss aside. I get it about work taking it out of you.

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  34. My favorite candy bar is Skor. They can be hard to find, so I don’t have them very often. But I love Sheetz! Their menu is very underrated.

    I made the leap from iphone 8 to 16 last fall and I love it. Ok, ok, I do miss the home button sometimes, but I like everything else, especially the battery life.

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    • Birchie, I haven’t had a Skor in a very long time. I remember them, but they’ve dropped off my radar. I’ll have to explore Sheetz more than just for a place to stop along the interstate.

      I’m enjoying my iPhone battery life, too. I like how clear the screen is, but miss my home button. I’ll learn what I need to know on it but not without a struggle.

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  35. My 7 year old self would be proud that this week I got over my fear of driving again after having to drive 30 minutes and 45 minutes to a couple of parties. In recent years I hardly drive at all. My 83 year old self is grateful I can still drive myself to where I need to go. But living where I do, I rarely need to leave campus to be happy.

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    • Jean, your answer is wonderful. Yay! I’m pleased to know you are driving, you party animal. I’m sure living where you do would cut down on how much driving you have to do. As someone who doesn’t especially like to drive, that sounds good.

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  36. My mother was the most organized person I know. She was so organized that she wrote her grocery list in the order that things appeared in the aisles in the grocery store she shopped in. Lucky for her, those were the days when everything stayed in the same spot on the same shelf for years. Lucky for me, I inherited some of her organizational skills but am not quite as anal as she was.

    What makes little me proud is the fact that I stand up for myself, whether in my blog or in everyday life, I don’t let people walk all over me or discredit my voice. Little me was a shy little mouse.

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    • Jenn, your mother’s shopping list is impressive and makes me long for the days when grocery stores didn’t remodel every 18 months like they do now. Drives me bonkers.

      I was a shy kid so I get why you’re proud of your adult self. I know that I try to not let people walk over me, but I don’t always succeed. Some days I am “I am woman see me roar” while other days I figure why bother?

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  37. Hi Ally, thanks for the ‘7 y.o. self proud and your 80 y.o. self grateful’ question, I just posed it to my husband & his answer seems to be an insanely fast rollercoaster, I’ll settle for feeling comfortable in my own skin (& also writing). I’m going to read that Japanese fable book, I love a good fable, thanks for the recommendation.

    I can be organised when I want to be but don’t look in my cupboards! Pre pandemic I was very organised but since we renovated our house (& got used to living in a mess) I’ve never quite recovered, though this week we’re starting to organise cupboards & drawers which feels cathartic. Like you, I feel much more relaxed when everything has a place.

    Anything written by Eckhart Tolle or Liz Gilbert leaves me feeling inspired and my favourite chocolate bar is a double decker (thanks for asking ☺️) not sure if you have them across the pond, I know I’ve never had the good fortune to try a zagnut.

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    • Rae Cod, I’m with you about NO to the rollercoaster, YES to feeling comfortable in my own skin. The book isn’t my usual genre, but I enjoyed the story and its simple message.

      I know what it’s like to live in your house while it’s being renovated. I got to a point where I didn’t even see the mess. It was there but my mind just ignored it. Getting a few spaces organized will do wonders for you.

      Good choices for authors who inspire, help you feel rejuvenated about life. I haven’t read anything by either author in years come to think of it. Kind of lost track of them.

      I don’t know what a Double Decker is but the next time we go to the large international-themed grocery store, I’ll look for it. It’ll be my quest.

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  38. I mean, I would read things like this all the livelong day: “Thus I am seeing clearly & hoping for some late summer blooms & grooving on yumminess.” – I am INTO those details!
    But seeing as you asked specific questions I will give you specific answers.

    What have you done recently that would make your 7 y.o. self proud and your 80 y.o. self grateful? Well! I have taken Big Steps towards publishing my novel. My 7yo self wanted to write books and I’m sure when I’m 80 I’ll be glad that I did.

    Currently, in general, how organized do you feel you are? Is being organized a goal for you? I am a super organized person generally. My friends in university used to gently laugh at me as my paper agenda would say things like 9-10 Microecon class. 10:05-11:15 work on essay. I always had things written down to the minute, including time that it would take to walk from class to the library. Some might call me “anal” but I just say organized.

    When thinking about books you have consumed [read], which one or ones has/have helped you feel regenerated, revitalized, ready to take on life anew? Ooooh I just finished a reread of one of my all-time favourites, Hateship Friendship Courtship Loveship Marriage, and it gave me pep in my step. I’m also reading Simple Abundance and Wild Hope, as well as (kind of off-topic) Radical Acceptance. I’m all fired up on abundance and hope and acceptance I guess.

    What is your favorite candy bar? What is your favorite cake? I don’t think I have a favourite candy bar. Oh wait, I just thought of Pep. Do they still make Pep? I also enjoy a Reece cup once every year or two. I guess I’m not much of a candy person but cake! I mean, it’s easier to tell you what isn’t my favourite cake (spice, or anything involving rhubarb) (or apple) (I prefer my apples in their virgin state) (do NOT come at me with a cooked apple)

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    • Nicole, your steps toward publishing your novel sound wonderful. I’m sure your 7 y.o. self is proud and your 80 y.o. self will be grateful you gave it a go. Well done.

      Your level of organization is what Elisabeth in her comment called a compulsion. I’m smiling at the amount of detail you enjoy, but also know that if it worked/works for you, then yay!

      I’ve never heard of any of the three books you mention, so will make a note of them. Talking about abundance, you’ve read The Serviceberry? I’m still musing over its message and implications for our society.

      I’m not familiar with Pep candy bars. Never heard of them. As for the flavors of cake you dislike… I adore them. Spice cake? Reminds me of childhood. I adore all things apple and rhubarb. That being said I’m sure we could find common ground on a cake flavor or two. There are so many from which to choose.

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  39. You have one too many questions 😃! I am trying to organize my garden! But my critters and the weather do not like that. Anyhow It has been spring cleaning this week at my home.

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    • ganga1996, I understand about the difficulties around getting a garden going. It’s been wet here, too, and the rabbits are thriving. Good luck with spring cleaning, so great when it is done!

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  40. It seems to me that blogging about what is of interest to the blogger and not necessarily of interest to anyone else would make a 7 y.o. self proud and an 80 y.o. self grateful.
    I see my blog as my My Codex Vitae – a book of my life – an idea I got from the excellent book by Robin Sloan – Mr. Penumbra’s 24-Hour Bookstore.

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    • Margy, ditto. I only write about what interests me and my 7 y.o. self would be proud of me for speaking up while I hope my 80 y.o. is filled with gratitude that I got into blogging. I’ve seen the title of the book you mention but don’t know anything about it. Adding it to my TBR list. Thanks for the suggestion.

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  41. My 7 year old would be impressed with a tinge of disappointment that I’ve learnt to pick my battles, and my 80 year old may revert to being feisty. Today, I’m seriously in awe of your very unique blog posts 😉

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    • Suzanne, I’m loving your answer. Your 7 y.o. self makes me laugh, she had gumption I take it. And I hope your 80 y.o. self is feisty. I plan on being that way. Thanks for stopping by to read and comment.

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  42. Changing my husbands’ bandages without getting queasy would make my 7 year old self and my 80 year old self feel awesome.
    I’m pretty organized but can always do better.
    I’m reading The Help by Kathryn Stockett. “You is kind, you is smart, you is important.” Saw the movie years ago but had never read the book.
    My favorite candy bar(s) are Payday, 100 Grand, and also Zagnut.
    My favorite cake is coconut. My friend makes the best two layer!!

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    • Beth, well you’ve got an excellent point about what would make your young/old selves happy. I’m not good with medical things like that so kudos to you. How is it going, btw?

      I know how you feel about being organized, good enough now, maybe better later. I know of the movie and book you mention, but haven’t seen or read them. I remember the tagline though.

      I like Paydays, too. I don’t remember the last time I had one, but I know when I last had a Zagnut. Of course you would like coconut cake. 🙄

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  43. Thank you for this perspective: I have never encountered it before. I will think on it more now when I am faced with a decision to make – I love it! Here’s to making 7year old me proud & 80year old me grateful!

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    • Ju-Lyn, I’m glad this idea resonates with you. It’s a bit goofy but also makes good common sense. I don’t apply it to all decisions, but when I do I haven’t gone wrong [yet].

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  44. Congratulations on your space improvements! I remember years ago you had a lot of sorting to do.
    I am highly organized and that’s because I cannot function in chaos and in that woo-woo way, I feel all the chi stopping at piles of clutter or stacks of paper, sucking the life force from me and my loved ones, like I feeeeeel that way. It’s neurotic. Compulsory. Purging, donating, shredding, and recycling for the win!
    The new phone thing is challenging for sure. I help my mother and my kids help me. I feel like a new iPhone takes a village.
    My favorite cake is white cake (wedding cake). And now I want some. It’s June and we have no weddings. Sigh.

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    • joey, you have a good memory. I’m willing to organize stuff, much of it inherited, but not all at once. I’ve done it in small doses. If nothing else the pandemic got me into purging, donating, shredding, and recycling because I was here around the stuff all day and it started to bug me.

      I understand how tidiness can make a person’s chi happy. Maybe mine is happier and I haven’t registered it yet? I mean, my bliss is buzzing so maybe my chi is too. 🤔

      Yes, yes, about iPhones. I can learn about it but am muttering about the fact that I have to. Think surly teenager attitude. No weddings for us the June, too. Seems odd.

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  45. My seven-year-old self would be proud that I’ve written two novels. And since I’m now 82, I’m grateful that that’s over, especially the publishing and selling parts.

    Since 2022, I’ve read probably 20 books about Ukraine, history books and novels. I find the people inspiring because they are so courageous and loving. And yes, that inspiration is rejuvenating.

    I’ve never heard of Zagnut. I was thinking the other day that I haven’t had an Almond Joy in ages. It’s not the kind of candy bar you would want to eat often, but I might enjoy one now and then.

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    • Nicki, your answer to the question is perfect and wonderful and truthful. Thank you. Love it.

      I like your approach to reading books that inspire and rejuvenate. I’ve never thought of non-fiction books about a region/culture as being a source of rejuvenation, but they can be.

      Zagnuts are an old-fashioned candy bar from the 1930s. It has peanut butter and coconut with no chocolate coating. I enjoy an Almond Joy about once a year. To me they taste good but oh so sweet.

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  46. I love my iPhone 16 which isn’t much different from my 12. I stayed away from the 15 due to bad reviews and negative comments from others. I’ve never heard of Zagnut! I wonder if we have them here. I can easily stay away from candy bars (don’t ask about ice cream though), but when I do it would be Almond Joy, Payday, Butterfinger, Kit Kat or anything with nuts, chocolate, caramel or coconut. For me, nougat or marshmallow are a firm pass. As far as I’m concerned, any tasks I accomplish no matter how small are a cause for celebration and pride.

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    • Margaret, I bought the iPhone 16 because I read many positive reviews. It’s not that it’s a bad device, the issue is that I resent learning how to use it. Techie stuff bores me, so I struggle to want to know more. But I will.

      Zagnuts are an anomaly among candy bars. Like a Payday they don’t have a chocolate coating. They’re made with peanut butter and coconut. No nougat or marshmallow is involved so you might like them.

      I like your perspective on accomplishing things. Let’s celebrate!

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  47. I’m not against improved technology, but what about guys like me who are content with what I’ve got? The thing that bugs me most about technology is that everything seems to becomes obsolete far too quickly and then we have to purchase something else to replace the outdated one. More bells and whistles doesn’t make necessarily make something better.

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    • Pete, you nailed it. I don’t enjoy learning about the bells and whistles on any new phone [or computer], so I put off buying one. Then when I do buy something many, many years later the jump to what is now normal is a long jump. I feel overwhelmed by the iPhone 16 rather than empowered by it, which considering its price tag, makes me snarl.

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  48. The raspberry-ricotta sounds amazing. It would be fun to witness you baking. I’m picturing you sashaying around the kitchen, listen to something sort of jazzy. And I would love to try that dessert.

    You’re scaring me about the phone. I believe mine is an 8. Eventually I’ll have to upgrade, but I’m afraid now for the reasons you mentioned. I’ll probably have my daughter figure everything out and then explain it to me. 🙂

    Cannot think re: the 7/80-year-old. I’m impressed you’ve got a lock on this. 🙂

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    • Ilsa Rey, I enjoy making a bit of a mess while I’m baking or cooking so that kitchen looks used and I feel like a real chef! It’s makes my 7 y.o. self proud and my 80 y.o. self grateful. ☺️

      The iPhone 16 is a nice enough phone, but it is more sophisticated than what I was using. I don’t especially appreciate how to do things on it, but the screen clarity is amazing and the camera, which is why I got it, is fabulous. But as for the rest of it… I dunno… you do something that leads to something… that gets you something. Please don’t let my technical jargon overwhelm you. 😜

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      • LOL on the technical jargon. Yeah, I could definitely do with a better camera. Plus, my screen is cracked and the battery is crap.

        I totally feel you on the kitchen. You’re a doll. I hope you enjoy cleaning the mess almost as much as you enjoy making it. 🙂

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  49. Interesting about your words, Ally. One of the reasons I gravitate to your blog is dissecting the minutiae of life … and isn’t this what life is about? The small things?

    I have not come across the grateful and proud concept, yet it makes sense. I have had a whirlwind of events this May – some challenging – many good. Your question brings to mind a small uncomfortable unexpected incident last week where I responded to this stranger how I was not comfortable with their request and I turned around. In the past I would have been overly Miss Nice, apologetic and so on. In retrospect I am ‘grateful’ and ‘proud.’ 💕 Erica

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    • Erica/Erika, I agree, life is about various little things that come together to create the bigger things. I notice details, then try to figure out what they’re all about. Hence the subtext of this blog.

      I’ve heard the proud/grateful saying a few times. The first time I burst out laughing, because why not rely on who you were and who you will be to help you in the now? Seemed sane.

      Your example of how you responded to the stranger is a good example of how you employed the saying to your benefit. Yay you!

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  50. Hi Ally – you sure made a fun post here – and I liked Kate’s questions – and your replies.
    In my circle, there has recently been talk about before and after covid days – and so reading how you have been a lot more organized since 2020 is is keeping that theme going – gosh – and it is a little hard to believe that it is halfway thru 2025.
    I cannot eat regular sugar and so I do not have candy bars, but when I was in middle school, my very favorite was Heath bars. ummmm we make homemade ice cream with our Ninja creamery and we use a “monk fruit and erythritol” to sweeten the ice cream and it is amazing.
    and oh wow – I miss going to Sheetz. I used to travel (by car) on the east coast to see family and stopping at Sheetz was the best – and side note – a memory I have from 2023 – was gassing up at Sheetz, getting snacks and stretching, while watching some of the closing parts of Alex Murdaugh trial. I will always recall that….

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    • Yvette, Kate’s question lead to insights, but I couldn’t do them weekly like she does. I don’t need that much self-awareness going on in my life.

      I used to like Heath bars but they’d do in my teeth and gums now if I tried to eat one. But the flavor was delicious. I’m glad you’ve found a way to make some ice cream that agrees with you. Summer is almost here and ice cream seems important.

      Your memory of Sheetz is funny. I only learned about them recently. They’re slowly making their way west. We stopped to use the rest rooms, but dawdled to look at the products on the shelves and in the coolers. AMAZING amount of merchandise, the best thing being a Zagnut, of course. 😋

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      • yeah – finding the Zagnut is pretty cool – and it reminded me of a time my husband found “cream soda” at a store and how fun it was – and it does make me wonder if one of the owners loves that bar (and one of the Sheetz I was in had this huge wall with a history of the sheetz stores and the owneras) – because I have not seen them anywhere – but I will let you know if I do see them – because now I am curious as to what they taste like.
        and do you remember the “Whatchamacallit” candy bar?
        and one more note about Sheetz – years ago – this intern left a company my husband worked at everyone got him Sheetz gift cards because it was his fav store – he ate there a lot.

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        • I remember Cream Soda flavored soda. It was really sweet as I recall, but I haven’t seen in years. Not looking for it so it may be there. I have a feeling that a person either likes Zagnuts or not. Probably no in-between.

          Another commenter mentioned eating at Sheetz and that it was better than you might expect. I love that the intern’s goodbye gift was a gift card for there. Very thoughtful.

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  52. I can answer the candy bar…does it have to be a candy bar? If so it’s Dark Chocolate Milky Way…not easy to find either which is a pain. If it can be any candy. Hands down Junior Mints. YUMMY!

    I am fairly organized, neat and tidy, but you’d wouldn’t thinks so by looking at the state of my desk or the daybed in my retreat at the moment. Both tend to be “catchalls”. Although I do try to keep all the things in neat piles.
    Oh, and I do set my keys down in the odd place too many times for me to count. I blame that on being easily distracted by doing something while in the midst of putting my keys away, setting them down to do the other thing and forget to get back to my keys. It causes me so much stress and anxiety you’d think I’d do that less. Sigh.

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    • Deborah, I used to eat those Dark Chocolate Milky Ways, but like you said, couldn’t find them anywhere. Now I’m wondering if Sheetz has those too. Never a fan of Junior Mints but you do you, boo.

      I believe that neat piles are being organized and tidy. It’s when I see too many scattered things, like on the top of my desk, that I begin to feel angst-y.

      Keys are important so I can understand why not knowing where they are is unnerving. I don’t lose my keys but forget where I left my cell phone. I know it’s somewhere in the house, but WHERE? 😵‍💫

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      • Oh, I hope you’re able to find the Dark Chocolate MW at the candy store. Now, you’ve got me wondering if the olde timey candy shop in Virginia City has them? We’re going there Friday taking The Dark Haired Beauty aka daughter-in-law there for the first time while she and Big Baby Boy are here visiting. That would be a treat if they do. It’s been ages since I’ve had one.

        Ha ha ha! I am the same. I know my keys are in the house, but where!? The cell phone. Do you know how many times I leave the house without it? A lot, a lot! Just last week I did and wouldn’t know it I actually needed it! I was returning something and I needed the scan code which was on my phone. Do you suppose we mislay or leave them at home is because we grew up with landlines and telephone booths? My phone is a tool but, I’m really addicted to it. I don’t answer it every time just it because it rings. In a pinch if I needed to make a call I think I’d be able to use a business or strangers phone, but finding a telephone booth these days in nearly impossible.

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        • I hope you find all the candy of your dreams in Virginia City. It’s funny how candy can be nostalgic, but it is.

          You nailed it about the cell phone thing. We grew up without them, lived a good portion of our adult lives without them, so having one can be convenient but maybe nothing much more. Good point about trying to find a phone booth.

          I appreciate the camera in my new iPhone, but overall I’m meh about it. Texting is the same as it was before so after that no specific feature calls [pun intended] to me.

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  53. Overall, I’m very organized. My organization skills were the only thing that allowed me to juggle the last four years of my job pre-retirement; my schedule was booked out in 15-minute increments like a doctor’s office, LOL.

    However, I’ve realized that post-retirement, I’ve relaxed my iron grip on organization. This means that I’ve allowed things to accumulate in a couple of areas, so I’m working to get those back under control.

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  54. Your posts are always a fun read, regardless of the subject. I enjoyed Kate’s questions and your answers, but the questions you pose are interesting, too. For your first question, yesterday I took a Reformer Pilates class. There were four other participants, with me being the oldest at 70. I know my 80-year-old self will be grateful that I have taken care of my body and still have strength, energy, and balance. My 7 yo self would be proud that I have not abandoned my love of recreational sports and desire to remain competitive (tennis).

    I am somewhat organized, especially after downsizing and making several moves during the past few years. We are wasteful in many ways, and spend too much on stuff we do not need. It is a vicious cycle.

    I haven’t read any books lately that left a significant imprint, but when I was in my early twenties, going through a divorce, all of the Ayn Rand books bolstered my courage.

    My favorite candy is Werthers. Favorite cake is an old-fashioned vanilla pound cake, preferably served with a scoop of vanilla ice cream.

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    • Suzanne, excellent answer to the proud/grateful question. I know that by keeping moving, now matter how you do it, the happier all our 80 y.o. selves will be.

      I hear ‘ya about trying not to be wasteful, yet not always achieving that goal. In a way that’s why I’ve been leaning into getting organized, in anticipation of when move on and as a way of being frugal.

      I know of the Ayn Rand books but they’re above my pay grade. I’m pleased the messages in them helped you through a difficult time.

      I haven’t had a Werthers in years. I’d forgotten about those. I like pound cake, too. But put fresh strawberries on mine please— more ice cream for you.

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  56. What an interesting way to put on a reflective lens. It made me wonder if you had to choose new frames for your glasses prescription and if you used the 7 yr old/80 yr old selves to make the decision.

    And wow – iPhone 8 to iPhone 16. Yikes, that’s a jump. Congratulations on navigating that!

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    • Wynne, I’ve heard the adage a few times and while I don’t make all decisions using it, there is a wisdom to it. In answer to your question: my 7 y.o. self is proud that I have blue bows on my frames and my 80 y.o. self is grateful that I am wearing comfortable rimless glasses.

      Don’t now how well I’m navigating the phone upgrade, but I’m trying.

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      • I love that you have all of your selves happy with your glasses.

        As for the phone upgrade, you deserve a congratulations no matter how bumpy it feels. I’ve seen a lot of people wrestle with technology in the work I do – the struggle is real and the praise is merited because you will come out the other side!

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  57. Aly! Love the 7/80 thing. I’m going to use it. And yes, organization is key for my existence, otherwise, I, too, go down the anxiety hole. Fav book of all time is Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins. Fav candy – tough one, maybe a heath bar or a baby ruth. ;0)

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  58. Love this post! It’s such a good reminder to find meaning in the little things—like planting flowers or discovering a favorite candy bar (Zagnut is a gem!). Lately, I’ve been asking myself similar questions while tackling a massive decluttering project. I rented a dumpster to finally clear out years of accumulated “stuff” and let me tell you, my 7 y.o. self would be thrilled to have the extra space for new adventures, and my 80 y.o. self will probably be grateful I won’t have to deal with it later! Thanks for the inspiration to reflect on these everyday moments!

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    • Jeanie, another Zagnut fan. Hello! The decluttering part of life snuck up on me. I’ve done a pretty good job but there’s more to organize, sell, give away, throw away, whatever. I like how you know what your 7 y.o. self would think about your dumpster and that your 80 y.o. self will know it was a good idea. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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  59. Hey, Ally! A post about a Zagnut bar? Who knew! They were my mom/Sue’s favorite and I thought they were long gone. I remember them…yummy. Sort of butterfinger-esque?
    Love your questions…even when I’m late to the party. I dunno about my 7-year-old self…maybe grateful overall? I know for sure that misfit me who LOVES to organize stuff is still within. I can’t help myself. Always in tidy up mode. Sending Wednesday hugs! 🥰😊🥰

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  60. I’ve been on an ongoing quest for greater organization too. A bit at a time feels very doable.

    Love the 7/80 question. Unfortunately, I’ve been sick this week so the only thing I can come up with is that I haven’t thrown up. I can’t think about candy bars or cake right now…

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    • Janis, your way of organizing s the way I’ve been doing it too. I tried to have a grand plan with deadlines but found myself angry and overwhelmed, so I took a mellower approach and it’s working.

      I’m sorry you’re sick this week. Take care of yourself. I know your 7 y.o. self will be proud of you and that your 80 y.o. self will be grateful that you took the time to get healthy.

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  61. I moved from an iphone 8 to a 16 a year ago, right before the Australia trip. I know the feeling, but the good news is that you will adapt!
    Being organized is not a goal. It is who I am.
    I’m partial to the Take5 bar. I’m afraid narrowing down my favorite cake is impossible.

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    • The Travel Architect, same phone leap! Thanks for your encouragement. I adore the new screen that is sharp and clear so it’s not all awful.

      Smiling about your essence is being organized. I sense that about you and hope that you may always be true to yourself.

      I like a Take 5 bar too. Haven’t had one in forever though.

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  63. Well Ally, I wish the COVID pandemic had made me more organized, but sadly I live in the same level of low anxiety you said you did as to my disorderliness. I used to be able to lay my finger on anything when I went for it, but those days are gone. Maybe over next Winter, I will get myself together. Summer is not a good time for organizing as there are walks to take, photos to snap and oh ya, weeds to pull (if they are long enough that others can see them besides me). I criticize myself a lot for my disorderliness and know my younger self was organized, but that was courtesy of my mother who would not allow one item to be out of place. Hopefully my 80-year-old self will know where everything is because she would have minimalized her life and streamlined all her stuff.

    We had a Sheetz move in about 10 miles from here and the first few days they had police directing traffic to get near it. I’ve not tried it, but there are more cities in SE Michigan where Sheetz is trying to infiltrate, but citizens are complaining in each one due to the traffic situations and noise/lights on 24/7.

    I really don’t eat sweets anymore to be honest, but I used to like chocolate cake. Likewise I can’t remember the last chocolate bar I had, but I used to like Kit Kat. I’ve never tried Zagnut.

    I dealt with computer issues the last two weeks of May – this is why you have a Mac and this may be my last Windows computer. I turn off updates, so they do not download and launch when I am not at the computer but I check daily for potential updates. Windows did a buggy update on my laptop when updates were turned off and it took me one complete day with HP techs to figure out that it was not a hardware problem but a Windows problem on this fairly new Windows 11 laptop. A “fix” was provided by Windows and it was all good for two weeks, until there was another update which this time I myself downloaded but on install, it wigged out and Microsoft reversed the install all on its own and said “try again” … the computer is 100% fine so I’m leery to go there.

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    • Linda, I’m living with the same hope: “… my 80-year-old self will know where everything is because she… streamlined all her stuff.” That’s the goal, I get so irritated not finding what I need on the first try.

      I’ve been to 2 Sheetz and they’ve been along interstate highways, off an exit ramp, on the edge of small towns. I can understand how one closer into a town might cause traffic problems.

      Kit Kats are a popular candy bar. There are many different flavors of them which I’m guessing adds to their appeal. I’ve never liked any I’ve tried, though.

      What a freaking mess with your computer. I know that Apple computers have their moments, but what you’re dealing with is a lot. I have no advice about how to make your Windows work better, but I am sorry it is such a mess. If it’s not one thing it’s another. Bummer.

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      • I know that Kit Kats are in weird flavors now, but I’m a purist and only would have the original. 🙂

        I like my Windows 7 HP laptop (I have two as both work, but I needed a backup computer as I worked from home all those years). I have never had a problem with either of them and have antivirus protection since Windows 7 no longer has updates, but I had to upgrade to a newer Windows OS after WP added a lot of AI features about this time last year. Like your old Mac and your old car, I am the same way … my old laptops still work and my 2009 car will soon reach a whopping 14,000 miles. New and modern technology is a challenge and has too many bells and whistles which I’ll never use.

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  64. i think my 7 year old self would be proud of my shoe collection and my 80 year old self is grateful that i’ve recently added flats to the mix. 🙂

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  65. In general, I’m a very organized person who still clings to the ‘a place for everything and everything in its place’ philosophy. And I think that influences most of the decisions I am called on to make in life, what to buy, where to put it, how to make use of it. Clutter makes me anxious, straightening up is a soothing activity. My 7 year old self would be proud and my 80 year old self will definitely be grateful!

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    • Barbara, yours is a delightful way to make your two selves happy. I know a few people who employ the “place for everything…” idea and it works for them. Here’s to your clutter-free life and subsequent low anxiety. Well done.

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  67. I’m gonna have to go check out the referring blog!
    The cake you made, well that sounds stupendously delicious.
    I’ve never heard this phrase about your seven year old and eighty year old self, but damn, that makes so much sense!
    I don’t eat much candy, but if I have a hankering, it’s usually for a Reeses peanut butter cup and only one, because two of them seems to hurt my delicate, sugar sensitive teeth. 🙂

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    • Suz, I like Kate. She’s been around a while and is more of a brand now than a blogger, but I remember her from back when. The cake was delicious, a good way to use up the end of the carton of ricotta that was left over after I made lasagne.

      The proud/grateful saying is a good one. Many people like Reese’s PB Cups, answers in these comments prove that!

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  68. Eh, when I can’t decide on something, I just ask Alexa for help. She comes through for me every time.

    My favorite candy bar is either Twix or Kit Kat, depending on my mood. I love a good carrot cake (though my California-famous rum cake ain’t too shabby either).

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    • Mark, I don’t think of Alexa as being anything more than a radio player or cooking timer, but I take your point. The has opinions.

      I like Twix but have never taken to Kit Kats. I like both of your cake choices. Like there is a bad cake flavor?

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      • You probably recall that we let Alexa choose our records when we’re undecided. I think of her as a third member of our household sometimes.

        I’m not big on chocolate cake/chocolate frosting, though Tara would disagree.

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        • You’ve embraced Alexa in a way we have yet to do, but there’s still time and your example may lead the way for us.

          I’m with you about chocolate tbt. But I’ll eat it without complaint in the spirit of enjoying cake.

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  69. Being organized is a huge goal of mine. Everything in my home has its place and I get very anxious when I have a messy cabinet or closet. Reorganizing it makes me feel so much better!

    I think the last book that really revitalized me was Glucose Revolution, which I read a few months ago. It really helped me clarify the steps I needed to take to lower my blood sugar (which was dangerously high at the beginning of the year, but has since come down to a normal level, phew).

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    • Stephany, I know many people get anxious around mess so you’re not alone. I’m glad you have a place for everything and are able to be tidy.

      I’ve not heard of that book but I can understand how it revitalized you. I know that lowering your blood sugar is important. Carry on, my dear, you seem to be going down the right path! [pun intended]

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  71. I haven’t seen a Zagnut candy bar in ages!
    My 7-year-old self would be proud that I continued to write. I started writing stories when I was 7 or 8 and have been published many times since then. I have a number of book proposals ready to go. I hope my 80-year-old self with be grateful when they bear fruit.
    I feel only somewhat organized. I have a system on my computer that I follow. But the photos on my phone are out of control.
    The Door-to-Door Bookstore by Carsten Henn made me remember the power of a simple, pleasant story. There’s nothing fancy or news-headline-driven about it.
    Snickers is my favorite candy bar. My favorite cake these days is a lemon cake from Nothing Bundt Cake.

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    • L. Marie, Zagnuts are delicious but not popular from what I can tell. I adore your proud/grateful answer. You’ve remained true to your younger self, fingers crossed about your book proposals.

      Like you I have no control over photos. Some days I wish I did, but most of the time I ignore the situation.

      I’ve not heard of the book you mention, but I understand why you like it. The Cat Who Saved Books was a quiet story, pleasant.

      Snickers and lemon bundt cake. We can be friends, both are delicious.

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  72. But this IS the stuff that we blog about. And that I like to read about. Everyday stuff. Like, I’m super jealous that you found a Zagnut. I didn’t know they still made them! My different-aged self is telling me to bake brownies right now, because I don’t have a Zagnut.
    I was soon to upgrade my phone (11) and get the 16. Maybe not?

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    • Pam, I was happy when I spotted the Zagnut because I knew they were still available just not around us. Until now. By all means bake brownies. Is there ever a situation in which brownies aren’t the right move? Me thinks not.

      It might not be that the iPhone 16 itself is lousy as much as that fact that this was a dramatic leap for me. And that I don’t enjoy learning techie stuff. It is different which makes me snarl… but I’ll learn it.

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  73. I like that method of deciding what to do.

    I’m late to the party, so I’m going to skip to the last question. I’m not sure I have a favorite candy bar, but I’d never turn down a Twix or a KitKat or a Heath Bar. As for cake, German Chocolate, please.

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  75. Thought-provoking as always, Ally. As for your final question, I haven’t eaten a candy bar in a while. Then yesterday I had a PayDay, which was actually quite delicious. If I had to choose a favorite, though, I would say Butterfinger. My favorite cake is a toss-up between homemade carrot cake and lemon bundt cake. (That was probably a longer answer than necessary to a simple question, but there you go.)

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    • Christie, I like Paydays next after a Zagnut. I’m not a big fan of chocolate, although I eat it. I’d like your cake choices, too. Your answer was the perfect length. 😊

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  76. Ally, you have a way of seeming to say nothing while opening doors to something deeper. I read your post some days ago and I’ve since spent free moments trying to separate true memories of being 7 years old from memories which are related to photographs. I’m still in the middle of it, but it’s been an interesting experience already – so my thanks to you.

    I’ve come to realise that being organised is not natural for me, despite it being something at which I’ve been good for much of my life. More recently, I’ve fought against it, feeling aggrieved at having become the organiser of everything for everyone else. Unfortunately I ended up in a mess at home, while still having to do it at work, which – as you can imagine – is not ideal. Where I am currently is trying to sort out a middle ground.

    On a lighter note, I’m fortunate in not having a sweet tooth. On those occasions I am drawn to a candy bar when buying fuel, it tends to be relatively junk chocolate rather than the good stuff. Something like Cadbury’s Whole Nut or a KitKat.

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    • Deb, I don’t start out with the intention of writing anything with any depth, but it does seem to happen. You’re right. I know what you mean about trying to remember the real 7 y.o. you. It’s tough.

      I’m sorry you’re in the middle of two messes. Ugh. Talk about being between a rock and a hard place. I like to be organized but also haven’t always been able to be so. There is a middle ground for sure.

      I remember eating Cadbury’s Whole Nut bars when I was in college in England. Definitely fuel, decidedly junky. Thanks for the flashback.

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  77. I’ve just learned I have a Vitamin B12 deficiency. It could explain so much… hopefully the organising will stop feeling quite so rock and hard place-ish once that’s resolved 🙂

    Delighted to hear you enjoyed my occasional guilty pleasure – happy you enjoyed the flashback!

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  78. How have I never heard this question before?? What a smart way to evaluate choices. Sometimes I feel well and truly stuck trying to make a decision so I’m gonna remember this one. My organizational skills are a bit like a revolving door — sometimes I feel really on top of things, sometimes I wonder wtf is happening with my life. I recently got a vacuum sealer in the hopes of organizing my freezer. Let’s just say I haven’t managed to pull off that stunt yet.

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    • Laura, I’ve no source for this advice but I’ve found it to be illuminating. I mean it sounds goofy on the surface, but it is damn useful when applied to situations. I’ve never tried a vacuum sealer bag device, but I can see how it’d could turn freezer chaos into something organized. I await your post about your, I hope, positive experiences with it. When you get to it, of course. 😉

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